AITA for letting my friend cancel her plane ticket after we argued about her bringing her new boyfriend on our girls’ trip?

A woman (F) and her best friend (F) had been planning a girls’ trip to Barcelona for months. However, two weeks before the flight, her friend suggested bringing her new boyfriend along. The woman, wanting the trip to remain just the two of them, disagreed, leading to an argument.

In the end, her friend canceled her ticket, stating that if the boyfriend couldn’t come, neither would she. Now, the woman feels guilty but also frustrated. Was she wrong for insisting on a girls’ trip? Read the original story below…

‘ AITA for letting my friend cancel her plane ticket after we argued about her bringing her new boyfriend on our girls’ trip?’

So, my best friend and I have been planning a girls’ trip to Barcelona for months. We’ve always talked about doing this, and it was something we were both really excited about. The plan was simple—just the two of us, catching up, exploring the city, and enjoying some time together.

But about two weeks before our flight, she started seeing someone new. I didn’t know him very well, but she was constantly talking about him, and it was clear she was really into him. Then, she told me she was thinking about inviting him to come along with us on the trip. I didn’t think much of it at first, but as she kept pushing the idea, I got uncomfortable.

This was supposed to be a girls’ trip, and I honestly didn’t want a third person, especially her boyfriend, tagging along. I tried to be understanding but told her that I was really looking forward to some quality time with her, just the two of us. She got upset and said I was being unreasonable, that I should be happy she found someone special, and that I was making a big deal out of nothing.

I felt like I wasn’t being unreasonable, though. This was supposed to be our time, and I didn’t want the dynamic to shift. The argument went back and forth for a couple of days. I kept telling her I was looking forward to our plans, just the two of us, and she kept insisting that her boyfriend could just come for a couple of days and it wouldn’t be a big deal.

I didn’t agree, and eventually, she said that if I wasn’t okay with it, she’d just cancel the whole trip. I thought she was bluffing, but she actually went ahead and canceled her ticket. She told me that if I wasn’t going to let her bring her boyfriend, she wasn’t going at all.

I didn’t want to lose my best friend over this, but I also felt like I was right to want some time alone with her, especially since this was something we’d planned for so long. Now I feel guilty but also frustrated. I didn’t want the trip to fall apart, but I also didn’t think I was wrong for wanting it to just be the two of us. Was I out of line, or is she being too dramatic? AITA?

See what others had to share with OP:

VirtualPanda89 −  NTA. Two weeks is barely a relationship it’s more like dating. Does she often throw herself into guys like this? You aren’t TA for wanting to keep your original plans.

andhakaran −  If the relationship couldn’t survive a few days apart, then it is doomed to begin with. If I planned a guys trip and one of the guys brought his family along, either him or I am going back home. It just isn’t done. Not just the dynamics, the entire nature of the trip changes with just one a**hole deciding that he or she is special.

Square-Minimum-6042 −  She is being dramatic and ridiculous. Also if she barely knows him it would not be safe to be out of the country with him.. INFO: Are you still going?

CoralOO276 −  this wasn’t an issue with her relationship at all. I’m happy for her, but I just felt like we deserved some quality time together after a long period of not being able to travel. I didn’t expect things to go this far, and I’m still trying to figure out if I handled it badly.

WorthSpecialist1066 −  Your (ex) friend showed you who she was. Go to Barcelona and have an amazing time by yourself.

QualityParticular739 −  I’m completely blown away by some of these replies. You’re 100% NTA here, and you did nothing wrong. You’ve been planning a girls trip for months, and suddenly at the last minute you’re supposed to be okay with her bringing along a guy she JUST met and essentially making you a third wheel on what was supposed to be a bonding trip?

And where did she expect this man to sleep? I assume you two were planning to share a hotel room or whatever. So was she just going to have him stay in the room with you, or were you supposed to change your accommodations so they could have their own room? No, she is being ridiculous and showing her true colors here.

E97ev −  All girls trip and a guy comes along without any previous talking. Yeah your friend has the “main protagonist” vibe. She better not come rather than coming with her new bf. NTA — run from there. your best friend does not value you.

If she did there wouldn’t be any discussion to be had. You wanted alone time together to connect. What you are gonna get is a third wheel or threesome. From what i’m reading both are equally possible

Derbebviin −  NTA. You planned a girls’ trip for quality time together, and adding her new boyfriend would have changed the dynamic. It’s unfair for her to pressure you and then cancel when you set a boundary. Your request was reasonable, and she’s overreacting. If you want to salvage the friendship, try having an open conversation.

JujutsuK00 −  Unbestfriend that b**ch. She not worth your time and friendship. She’s the type of person who will sell you for peanuts. I get it if they were dating for years but TWO weeks? She big buggin.

Petalwillow −  NTA. It was supposed to be a girls’ trip. She was being super inconsiderate and then threw a tantrum when she didnt get her way.

Was it unreasonable for her to want the trip to remain a special girls’ getaway, or did her friend have every right to bring her boyfriend? What would you do in her shoes? Share your thoughts below!