My (F30) boyfriend of 3 years (M30) just said that if he had a Megan Fox bot he’d be b*nging her every night … what would your emotionally mature response be to that?

A woman shares her experience of feeling hurt and confused after her boyfriend made an offhand comment about a fictional scenario involving an AI robot resembling Megan Fox. She’s working on her insecurities and body image but wants advice on how to respond in an emotionally mature way to such comments in the future.

‘ My (F30) boyfriend of 3 years (M30) just said that if he had a Megan Fox bot he’d be b*nging her every night … what would your emotionally mature response be to that?’

For context, we were watching Subservience on Netflix. He was shocked and weirded out by the fact that the husband in the show has all these emotional hang ups regarding cheating on his hospitalized wife with the AI robot portrayed by Megan Fox. My brain just kind of glitched out at that point, and I didn’t say anything.

To be honest it triggered my body dysmorphia and general insecurities, but I’ve been working through a lot of those with success and I do understand that just because my partner makes comments about a celebrity, it’s nothing that I need to take to heart.

But THAT comment felt so much more … insulting I guess? And I don’t know how best to address it. In reality the moment has passed and I’ll probably just move on, but I’m really curious to know what others would have said in response, and what the best reply would be if it ever comes up in the future.

Check out how the community responded:

NYCStoryteller −  “Did you actually say that out loud and think it was an appropriate thing to say?”

ShotAssignment7968 −  Why do you think it’s your responsibility to have an emotionally mature response to inconsiderate immature behavior?  People who make you feel small and question your with aren’t worth keeping.

NArcadia11 −  Honestly, just give him a taste of his own medicine. “I would do the same with a Henry Cavill bot.” And see how he reacts. If he gets butthurt, tell him you’re just making the same joke he made.

Dependent_Remove_326 −  “If I had a Thor robot maybe he could actually get me to o**asm.”

External_Somewhere95 −  It probably felt worse because of the context of the movie that the husband had emotions about his hospitalized wife and your bf is seeming to imply he wouldn’t have a problem if it was his wife(potentially you). Although, I think he’s teasing as though you were bros here, like “heh if I was that guy I would heh heh”, just simply being immature and gross. If it’s the first time he’s ever made a “joke” like that, have a chat about how it made you feel. He should be able to listen and reply with respect.

MedicalDeparture6318 −  Just watch The Witcher together, and say “Wow!” when, well, I don’t even need to tell you, you’ll know!

Ok_Horror979 −  Yeah as a married woman, that’s a disrespectful and disgusting thing to say.

anglflw −  “Get the f**k out,” would be the response he deserves.

Sniff_The_Cat3 −  Lmao that’s f**king sad. He has a girlfriend but is more s**ually attracted to a f**king robot than to her.

Justin_Continent −  “What an expensive, soulless way to masturbate…”