Husband 33/m Sent Me 36/f Photo of Someone Else’s Body but my face. How am I suppose to react?

A Reddit user shared a troubling experience where their husband sent them a photo of their own face, but altered the body to be a slender and nude version, in stark contrast to their actual body. This was after their husband had made hurtful comments about their appearance. The user felt deeply hurt and confused, unsure of how to process this behavior.

Despite expressing their feelings, the husband dismissed their emotions, calling them overly sensitive. The user now struggles to understand the situation and how to navigate their feelings of rejection. To see how others responded to the situation, read the full story below…

‘ Husband 33/m Sent Me 36/f Photo of Someone Else’s Body but my face. How am I suppose to react?’

I (36f) was going to join my husband (m/33) in the backyard but stopped when I saw him coloring a n**ed body on his iPad. Shortly after he came in and had another picture showing, of me posing in front of a sign outside, fully clothed of course. So I asked what happened to the n**ed photo.

He told me to stop snooping as he continued to color on my image. He asked why my face is so chubby. I went upstairs quietly. Then he sent me the actual photo he was working on. It’s my photo but I’m n**ed and it’s not my body. It’s a very nice slender body with perky breasts. In truth I am chubby and my breasts are a bit saggy…

I b**ast fed both our kids plus I’m not super young anymore. So wtf am I supposed to feel? I feel hurt but if I talk about it he’ll dismiss it and tell me I’m making a big deal out of it. He called me chubby and he has commented that I have saggy breasts on many occasions.

Can you please tell me how I’m to process this? Because I am sensitive and emotional and never know if I’m over reacting. He’s mad at me now calling me stupid and the worst partner ever bc I take everything over board.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

HatsAndTopcoats −  I’m saying this not simply based on the photo but on everything in your post: Your husband is contemptuous of you and emotionally abusive. He enjoys making you feel bad and then abusing you for reacting to it. This is not normal, it’s sick and disturbing. Please don’t let your kids think that a marriage is supposed to be a man making a woman feel like s**t while she stoically absorbs it.

SkyXIV −  Send him a pic with his face on a guy who is ripped and with a huge duck.

LolaPaloz −  Is your husband 6 years old? Why is he colouring in ur photo

No_Sky_946 −  Are the men ok? Like truly ok?

AdAdmirable587 −  I’m at a loss for words. The fact that you even think you’re overreacting or being sensitive tells me this man has been bullying you then g**lighting you for a while. This is straight up psychological abuse. I know we’re all very quick to jump to “leave him” on here,

but I don’t think this is a hehe hoho mistake, a joke, or funny. He did this intentionally, to hurt you. To tell you, AFTER BIRTHING AND B**AST FEEDING YOUR CHILDREN that your body isn’t good enough. Honestly, the only solution here is cut his d**k off and then leave.

Deep_Narwhal_5758 −  “He asked why my face is so chubby” Ask him why he has the audacity to ask something like that & throw it back at him (even if he’s in shape because his attitude stinks). If he says your breasts are saggy again, tell him that it’s from him dragging you down with his comments/ attitude.

Gator-bro −  Why are you married to such a crappy person? He is mentally abusing you

ChickenScratchCoffee −  Ask if he can make one of him but with a larger penis…

LisaOGiggle −  Once upon a time, I dated someone who said I’d be perfect if my boobs were bigger and my belly flatter. My response was-If I’m so unsatisfactory, by all means take the road out front in either direction, as long as it was away from me. If you pay for the boob enhancement, the gym membership & the tummy tuck, I’ll be most happy to oblige, but you thought I was cute before, so now make your choice.

violue −  your husband sounds like an absolute cunt, hon

Was the user’s reaction justified, or did they overreact to their husband’s actions? How would you handle a situation where your partner’s behavior makes you feel objectified or disrespected? Share your thoughts below and join the discussion!