AITA for watching and not doing anything while my wife was being kicked out of my company?

A man faced an intense dilemma when his wife stormed into his workplace, causing a major scene that put his job at risk. After security escorted her out, he chose not to intervene, leading to a heated argument at home. Now he’s wondering if he handled the situation poorly or if his actions were justified. Here’s the full story.

‘ AITA for watching and not doing anything while my wife was being kicked out of my company?’

Hear me out, just read the whole text. So my wife, F (26) and I, M (33) been married for 2 years. I admit that she is a hothead and can be a bit much especially when shes mad at me. I take responsibility for any mistake j make like not cleaning the bathroom after the shower or filling her car with gas after using it. I even stand there and let her unload her anger and frustration on me BUT only at home and not in public. She tends to start arguing with me in public instead of waiting til we get home.

Recently she’s been coming to my workplace to berate me over something I did the night before like not getting the stuff I said I would get or doing the stuff I said I would do. It’s embarrassing and humiliating,iating and has been affecting my job to the point where I started getting a warning after a warning from my superiors who, I believe have been very patient and understanding especially when my wife makes a fuss at the office.

Last week I was in the middle of a 2hr meeting and next thing I knew was seeing my wife barge in while yelling at me asking why I was keeping my phone turned off (I had to turn it off after getting warnings about I since she forbid me from turning it off). I was stunned, because my superior and co workers AND potential clients were there. I didn’t even move my superior dealt with it and called security to get her out.

My wide started arguing with him telling him she came for me then started urging me to get off my seat and tell them to back off. But I didn’t I just watched as security escorted her out. It was horrible because I had a fear that my job was lost. She yelled at me repeatedly to get them to stop but she got kicked out eventually.

I got told she’s no longer allowed there and that this was going to be my final, last warning. I apologized then went home. She was there waiting then yelled about me watching and doing nothing whole she was getting mistreated and kicked out. I finally snapped and said she was over the line, made a scene that risked my job over few missed calls.

She started crying saying I still should’ve defended her after getting humiliated infront of my co workers but told her she didn’t have to worry about it because she’s no longer allowed there. She got more furious and went to her mom’s to stay there.

These are the responses from Reddit users:

IAmHerdingCatz −  Your wife isn’t a “hot head,” she’s abusive. She’s going to violate that ban and get you fired. You need to get out–these things only escalate. Edit: NTA x1000. Sorry I had to be reminded to vote!!

Obvious-Result6853 −  NTA. This is a form of abuse and I would take this with a strong understanding that things are getting worse. You never show up to a spouses place of work like that.

Aunty-Sociale −  NTA your wife is abusive. You need to get away from her and get counseling.

GoonyGooGoo42 −  NTA. You are an abused husband. If you do not have kids, you should cut her loose. In fact, you could change the house locks right now. This would help your ability to keep the house during the divorce. Edit: Your divorce papers should be served with a restraining order. Edit 2: Thank you for the feedback on the lock changing. I am happy to admit when I am mistaken.

KrtekJim −  NTA, and this is 100% divorce-worthy.

BeeYehWoo −  See a lawyer. You are married to an abusive m**ipulative monster. She has no concept of acceptable behavior. What kind of face does she have to show herself in public behaving like this? You are 110% right. NTA.

wildferalfun −  NTA. Please contact your HR department and ask for help because you are in an abusive relationship and it is a common tactic among abusers to cause job loss as a method of destabilizing their partner. She isn’t just a hot head, she is controlling and aggressively monitoring your behavior (flying off the handle when you are not reachable 24/7.) This kind of behavior only escalates.

Your coworkers and your superiors have seen her raging abuse and control, I know they’re frustrated with her disruptions but if this were a man barging into his wife’s office to berate her, they’d be much more concerned. You need to take this wake up call. There is no planet where someone this unhinged does not become violent. Please be safe and find a way to protect yourself. I am glad she left. Sort this out and get the f**k out.

attack-ninja −  My friend, you really need to learn the signs of abuse.. NTA.

love_cars_more −  NTA. Why are you still with her? Even 5 year olds are better behaved than her (no shade to kids). Btw, your supervisors are extremely patient. I don’t know which universe your wife is living in. P.S. It’s common decency to not use your phone at work. We leave our phones in our drawers for meetings. How can she not know this? She is 26!

Julia070000 −  NTA divorce her now! Ffs