AITA for not waking my husband up for his 5AM walk?

A Redditor shares a conflict with her husband over missing his new 5 AM walking routine. Despite normally relying on an alarm, he blamed her for not waking him up when he forgot to set it. The argument escalated, with her questioning the intensity of his reaction and him accusing her of not supporting his newfound hobby. Was she in the wrong for not taking responsibility, or was her husband overreacting? Read the full story below to decide.

‘ AITA for not waking my husband up for his 5AM walk?’

So for the past month, my (36) husband (39) has waking up at 5 every night to have a walk. These walks would take about 2 hours, Side note to mention that this new, he’s not trying to lose weight (pretty thin) he’s not athletic by nature nor has sports interests or hobbies. infact, he hated doing any type of sport. I’m happy for him since it’s an overall positive thing. but yesterday, he came home in the evening after working for long hours then stayed up late playing with his phone. I went to bed at 10 after getting done with the mess and everything.

I woke up by him yelling at me at 7 am asking me why I didn’t wake him up for his 5am walk. He said he missed it and I’m responsible for that. I was so confused I said that first of all, he always wakes up by setting his alarm, why should I be expected to wake him up this time. He yelled that he forgot to set his alarm. I said so what? it’s no big deal it’s not like….he missed an important meaning or something but he got more angry and said that those walks help imrove his health and restore his energy and help him feel better.

I made a comment about how missing one walk won’t hurt but he unloaded on yelling about how I was trying to prevent him for doing his hobby for some unknown reason. I told him he was sorely mistaken even though I admit that those daily 5am walks around the veteran’s park are weird but also his reaction? I really thought it was over the top. He stormed off and went to shower saying I ruined his entire day.

When he got out he started avoiding and ignoring me. Even when I talk to him directly. he went to work and refused to respond to my calls. Really, I’m at a loss like maybe it was something I said about his walks. but I really don’t know. he’s sulking nonstop as of now and I’m literally about to lose my mind. AITA?

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

[Reddit User] −  Perhaps I’m crazy, but tomorrow I’d wake up at 5AM as well, just to see where exactly he goes on those morning walks. But again, perhaps I’m crazy. ETA: Personally, I don’t think it’s cheating, as it doesn’t explain the desperation and anger. The stakes seem to be higher, where missing his “walk” has unpleasant consequences. Of course it’s possible he’s very n**rotic about his new routine and you caught him at a bad moment, but his response is suspicious enough to dig a little deeper. Also forgot the judgment: NTA.

xcapades −  Whilst I wouldn’t have initially found the daily walks odd his reaction definitely is! Wake him up at 5am every day for the next week and go walking with him to “make up for” not waking him up today… bet he comes up with an excuse why you can’t join him…. NTA.

whorlando_bloom −  We’re gonna need an update after you find out what he’s really doing at 5am.

Strawberry1217 −  NTA and I’m not convinced he’s just “going for a walk”.

Emotional_Fan_7011 −  NTA. I am with everyone else so far. This isn’t a two hour walk. He is either doing drugs or meeting someone for s**. No one who is super tired and forgot to set an alarm, would be that mad about missing a walk, unless something is happening on that walk.

inushtook90 −  My gut feeling says he’s up to something. I think the reason he is so upset is because he missed a planned rendezvous with someone he can’t easily text or call. Follow him next time, hopefully I am wrong.

gayforaliens1701 −  In addition to what everyone else is saying, I’m noticing he stayed up playing on his phone while you were up till TEN dealing with “the mess and everything.” Does your husband contribute to the household at all? Is there always an unfair expectation of labor division that negatively affects you? There’s just a lot of red flags in this post.

SamSpayedPI −  NTA. He always set his alarm, he had no reason to believe you’d even be awake at 5:00 AM to wake him up, and he didn’t ever ask you to wake him up, and yet he’s mad at you because he didn’t wake up? That is a very strange reaction. Is there any way to convince him to see a doctor?

shawshawthepanda −  NTA. there’s something else going on here.

Myup902 −  NTA. My former FIL started taking an evening walk out of nowhere “for his health”. Turns out he was going to bang a woman in her car. Hopefully that’s not what your husband is doing, but if it is it’s not your responsibility to make sure it happens.