AITA for not inviting the neighborhood snitch or the HOA board to our neighborhood BBQ?

A Redditor shared a story about hosting a neighborhood BBQ and choosing not to invite the HOA board members or a neighbor, Jessica, who is known for shaming others for minor infractions and posting about them online.

The Redditor had previously been frustrated by Jessica’s actions, especially when she shamed an elderly neighbor for her unkempt lawn, which led to a fine. Read the original story below to get more details on the drama and how the situation unfolded.

‘ AITA for not inviting the neighborhood snitch or the HOA board to our neighborhood BBQ?’

There’s around 10 houses in my neighborhood of 120 that are not in the HOA, mine included. We (or previous owners) were smart enough to not join the HOA. As a result, i am able to make extensions and I have a pool, which I host neighborhood parties occasionally.

My HOA is one of the worst HOAs, constantly fining people hundreds of dollars for parking violations, painting their fences the wrong shades of brown, wrong color curtains, having 2 flags etc. They’re not the worst HOA but they’re bad.

We also got a s**tty neighbor, Jessica, who likes to go around and snap photos of people’s violations and then post it on the next-door app to shame them. She prides herself in this thinking it makes the neighborhood better when she shames the Smiths for having a fence thats 2 inches too high, or the Johnsons for having light brown door instead of a dark brown door.

Jessica is a f**king cunt, she’s probably cost neighbors thousands of dollars in fees or forcing them to renovate. I absolutely lost my s**t when Jessica posted in the next door app about how Mrs Jenson (85 year old woman, currently having serious medical issues) has a lawn thats a couple inches too high.

She obviously can’t mow the lawn and was too busy to notice. The HOA then fined her 500 dollars. I made a post in the next-door app about the next-door app saying that the suburban fascists on the HOA nor Jessica were invited to my BBQ at my house.

Jessica went on a ran saying how much of a angel she is and how she protects the neighborhood doing her duty and I told her she’s a low life scumbag busybody and is a pathetic l**er with nothing better to do.

A couple people said I was bullying and excluding her and like 4 of her friends are “boycotting” my party and hosting their own party. The party happened and nobody else showed up to theirs and ours was a blast. She apparently cried over it.

Check out how the community responded:

DontBeTeenGrandpas −  NTA people like her are the worst for neighborhoods, glad you don’t tolerate that s**t.

dowhatchafeel −  Just gonna throw this out there. YTA for throwing a neighborhood BBQ during the Coronavirus outbreak.. NTA if this was any other time

Scrabulon −  NTA, as someone currently living in an HOA, they are the devil. We’ve been fined becaause someone snitched on us leaving our trash cans out after trash day, and almost got another because we had weeds in our front yard (because our neighbors can’t be assed to remove theirs). Your neighbors deserved it lol…

CooSoo −  Sounds like Jessica got an overdose of her own medicine and gagged on it. Party on my friend. NTA

AnOldTelephone −  ESH: The HOA people s**k for obvious reasons. You s**k for making unnecessary drama by posting inflammatory comments on social media instead of just quietly not inviting them. If this was recent, you also s**k for hosting a neighborhood barbecue during a pandemic.

RemarkableQuantity1 −  NTA those people are the worst. I am thankful to not live in an HOA

Jbh1932 −  NTA….hoa’s and neighborhood busybodies s**k. She sounds like she enjoys taking it to an extreme. I’m sure you’ll get chastised on here for being too harsh but she dug her own grave. If she can’t handle it she should mind her own business

Pookie103 −  I N F O because I’m from the UK and don’t fully understand this HOA thing?? I’ve seen a few posts on here about conflicts arising from them and they sound awful..!

But I’m curious about what they exactly are and why they have so much power? Like who are the fines going to? Who sets the rules and the fines? Also NTA because this Jessica sounds insufferable and a busybody.

nickis84 −  $500 fine because an old lady couldn’t mow her lawn? That’s ridiculous! Your HOA sounds like the mean kids in hs. Has anyone contacted an attorney to see if they’ve over stepped what they’re entitled to do? The fines seem excessive.

FlatGrapefruit9 −  NTA jessica is a horrible person for doing that and so is the HOA, you don’t have to let these assholes in your house

Do you think the Redditor was right to exclude Jessica and the HOA board from the BBQ, or was it an unnecessary act of exclusion that could have been avoided? How would you handle a situation with a neighbor who constantly reports others for minor infractions? Share your thoughts below!