UPDATE: AITA for possibly making my parents homeless?

A Redditor previously shared their story about possibly making their parents homeless after choosing to move in with their sister instead of paying rent at home. In this heartwarming update, they reflect on their decision, describe the unexpected love and care they’ve experienced living with their sister, and express gratitude for the support they received. Read the full update below…

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‘ UPDATE: AITA for possibly making my parents homeless?’

It’s been like three weeks and many, many things have happened. I graduated high school (go me!), I turned 18, and I moved out! I finally feel like I’m adulting, kind of. I moved in with my sister the day after my birthday, and I’ve been living with her for a bit over two weeks. It’s been really weird.

They do all of this stuff in her house that we never did as kids. Family dinners every night? Never done it once until now. My sister and her fiance carve out blocks of time to spend with the kids! My parents never did that. My oldest nephew (he’s 10) dropped an open can of pineapple in the kitchen a few days ago.

I expected him to get yelled at, but my sister just helped him clean it up and told him to grab a new can from the pantry. That was weird. My parents were never that chill. When I was a kid I would see these perfect families on TV, (shoutout to dinosaur train lmao) and my parents always told me that those kinds of parents didn’t exist.

That it was all made up for TV. That real parents don’t take that much of an interest in their kid’s lives and interests. I believed them until now. In the past few weeks, I’ve seen my sister and her fiance spend hours making model planes with my oldest nephew, or rocking the youngest to sleep when she was overtired.

That stuff never happened when I was a kid. My niece (she’s 4) woke up in the middle of the night last week, crying about something. Instead of telling her to stfu and go to bed, my sister’s fiance got up and sat with her until she fell asleep. I guess I was just surprised that my experiences aren’t the norm.

Anyway, both my brother and I are doing really well here. My brother has been cooking a lot (he’s going to culinary school), and everyone seems to really appreciate it. I’ve been spending time with my nieces and nephew and I have played more Minecraft these past two weeks than I think I’ve played in my entire life.

If anyone knows what Titanfall 2 is, please help me out. I’ve been an adult for less than a month and these children and their new-fangled video games already confuse me. This is all just a very long winded way to say thanks.

If I hadn’t posted here, I don’t think I would have moved out. My savings would basically be drained, and I wouldn’t be as happy as I am now. So thank you. Now I guess it’s time to see if I can figure out how to do an update post.

Check out how the community responded:

spicyasabaguette −  so you can’t come downstairs to compliment me, but you can come downstairs to tell me to go upstairs to get my phone and then come back downstairs so you can see my reaction to you complimenting me? I see how it is. honestly I’m just happy you’re here.

I told you before, me and Michael and Daniel have been waiting so long to move you guys out of that house. I’m just the one who has the available rooms. If Michael wasn’t overseas it would have been him. If Daniel had another room it would have been him. but anyway, love you both.

It’s been really nice to have some extra hands around the house, especially with Cam and his cooking. I see why he’s going culinary school. The kids love you, Ethan thinks you guys are great, even Aris likes you and that’s pretty darn rare.

Keep being the person you are and I think this arrangement is going to work out fantastic. Edit: okay everyone just come over and we can have pie and hot chocolate. love you all and remember, who your family is doesn’t define you.

Gwendolynftw −  I am sorry you never felt what a loving home and loving parents felt like. I am glad, that even at 18, you and your brother are getting to experience that. I hope you will carry it forwards if you have a family some day.

Chuckfrommars −  What going on with your parents? Did y’all cut them off?

mat-2018 −  This is gotta be one of the most wholesome things I’ve read in over two years of redditing. I give you my most sincere congratulations for all you’ve achieved and I hope you can be happy forever and fulfill all your goals in life. I’d give you gold but I’m poor, so have a virtual hug instead 🙂
Edit:awww thanks to whoever gave me an award, my first ever one here. Hugs for all 🙂

burnedorb −  Titanfall 2 is a fantastic game, and I will hear no other opinions on this matter. Anyway, it sound like you are settling in well, and I just want to say that no matter what kind of childhood you had, you deserve to be happy and surrounded by people that care about you

LordJiraiya −  I didn’t see your original post before but this is a very nice update to see. Glad that you are doing well and that you were able to get out of your parents house with relative ease and stay with your very kind sister and her family. It also seems like you and your brother are doing a good job to contribute what you can (spending time with their kids and cooking)!

InvincibleSummer1066 −  shoutout to dinosaur train lmao… until now, I suspected I might be the only person who paid any level of attention to the loving family dynamics in Dinosaur Train. When my daughter was little she watched it a lot, and I LOVED it because somehow that loving family dynamic was really soothing.

As sad as it is to say, sometimes I’d put Dinosaur Train on my phone and use headphones to listen to it while trying to fall asleep because it just felt very cozy and comforting. So — I’m glad to learn there’s another human being who recognizes what a good family we see on Dinosaur Train. :p

I’m so happy you moved out. And I’m so happy you’re finally able to witness a healthy, loving family dynamic. I’m also thrilled that your sister is being a great mom rather than following in the footsteps of your parents.

plain_oatmeal −  I remember reading the initial post and seeing you and your sister’s back and forth with each other and laughing. That’s what siblings are for and I know that my brother and I would have each other’s backs just like you guys. Glad that this whole situation has worked out so well for you all in the end, and thank you for the wholesomeness.

[Reddit User] −  Too many replies to read to see if someone offered this advice or not BUT, when you go to college/university you’ll have to fill out and submit a FAFSA which based on you and twins age will require parent data since you’re DEPENDENT level students.

If your parents refuse to provide their data which sounds possible based on their apparent sense of betrayal and cold treatment of you two then you’ll find yourselfs at an impass. Without PARENT data. your FAFSA wont be processed by the feds, it’ll be listed as a rejected FAFSA missing parent data and signature.

So, two choices here guys. One, get a full on guilt campaing going with familiy to pressure parents to not be vengeful dicks and provide their data as well as sign the FAFSA or two, if your relationship with them is BEYOND REPAIR then start documenting things, get statements from relatives

and NON FAMILY RELATED third parties such as HS counselors, teachers, cops, therapists, religious leaders (priest, rabbi, pastor, iman etc,etc) that speak to the fact u no longer have a relationship w. Parents, that u fled ur homes to live w. sister and that parents provide no financial support.

You boys will need to contact each individual college, community college or four year university you plan to attend and request a DEPENDENCY OVERRIDE, a process by which each individual school can determine wheter or not to deem you INDEPENDENT level students who dont require parent data and or signatures to be considered for and receive STATE, FEDERAL AND OR INSTITUTIONAL AID SOURCES.

I’m a financial aid counselor at a big school and deal with Dependency Overrides, your case is more common than youd think and sadly are the hardest to overcome since PARENTS ARE NOT LEGALLY OBLIGATED TO PROVIDE FINANCIAL SUPPORT FOR COLLEGE EDUCATION.

With out documented evidence of physical or mental abuse, your Dep. Override will be tough, you can claim abandonement but yoy chose to leave so youll have to word things right in your request to schools.

Worst case scenario, your Dep override is denied and the schools offer u, REFUSSAL TO SUPPORT documents which your parents will have to sign, this will allow for a FAFSA to be processed for a DEPENDENT LEVEL student that has no parent data or signature BUT WILL ONLY ALLOW YOU TO RECEIVE Federal Direct UNSUBSIDIZED LOANS.. Best of luck!

ihatepulp −  So your sister is basically Mrs Pteranodon 😀

This story beautifully highlights how stepping into a supportive environment can redefine one’s perspective on family. What are your thoughts on how childhood experiences shape our expectations of love and care? Share your opinions below!