AITAH for admitting in front of all of my husbands friends that I’ve never had an o**asm?

A woman recounted an awkward moment at a birthday party where, after being asked about her reaction to a joke, she admitted she’d never had an org*sm. This revelation led to jokes and comments at her husband’s expense, leaving him feeling humiliated and upset.

He accused her of embarrassing him, while she defended her honesty, saying she was simply responding to the question asked. Now, she’s wondering if she crossed a line. Read the full story below.

‘ AITAH for admitting in front of all of my husbands friends that I’ve never had an o**asm?’

Recently was my husbands friends birthday party, it was a bigger party and all my husbands friends and their wives were there. No kids. One woman that I’m friendly with was annoyed with her husband, and joked “men. If they didn’t get us off why would we keep them.”

And she laughed. I awkwardly laughed but I guess looked uncomfortable. She asked me what was up, and she pointed out that i made a weird face. I said “I’ve just never had an o**asm before, so I guess I couldn’t relate.” Almost a dozen people looked at me when I said that, it was super awkward.

The wife then awkwardly asked “is everything ok down there” and I said “yeah, just have never had anyone try I guess.” For the next ten minutes all my husbands friends took turns insulting him in various ways. Many women talked about how they’d never be married to someone who didn’t get the job done.

My husband made us leave early. When we got home he lectured me about how I humiliated him. I pointed out that she asked, and I have a tendency to be honest. He’s been really upset the last several days, and he keeps saying he can’t talk to his friends because they now think badly of him.. AITAH for being honest here?

These are the responses from Reddit users:

KindlyCelebration223 −  That’s edit flipped me right into the NTA camp. Why are you with a man who probably uses your body to get off but can’t be bothered to interact with any more than he would a flesh light?

idcpicksmn −  I was in my mid 20s before I had my first o**asm. Prior to that, I would be in the mood, sometimes hyper s**ually, but could just never get there. I took matters into my own hands. Self exploration is a great way to find out what you like. Not every body will react the same way, so take your time, shop for toys, find a good porn, or even use your imagination, and let your hands do the talking.

Or, you could be ace, and that’s fine too. Your husband though, when I read how little he cares about your pleasure, idk if that’s worth saving. Also, like you said, if ‘its not a big deal’ then he shouldn’t have any problem with other people knowing about it. NBD right? I think his apathy towards you is more concerning than his inability to pleasure you imo.

barefootwondergirl −  Is that you, Mrs. Shapiro?

emilgustoff −  Holy s**t! Your SO said “He tells me that it’s not important/not a big deal that he doesn’t get me off.”…….. thats nuts. I would feel like a failure is a lover. I’m sorry.

nopenothappening99 −  My gran was a bit of a prude, but even she told me (when I was 16 mind you, so not too early lol) “if he hasn’t got time to make sure you are taken care of and enjoy everything first, then he hasn’t got time for s** at all.” NTA. But your husbands friends wife’s are right.

jewelophile −  I was going to say she’s the a**hole until I got to the last paragraph. Since it’s not that important, I just don’t see why I have to hide it like some kind of dirty secret. 100%. If he doesn’t care-if he’s not embarrassed about making zero effort for his partner- why should she?

34countries −  Either way you should learn how to masturbate. It is easier for you to relax and learn by urself

Ok-Cheetah-9125 −  Edit: I’ve brought the issue up countless times in the past. He tells me that it’s not important/not a big deal that he doesn’t get me off. Since it’s not that important, I just don’t see why I have to hide it like some kind of dirty secret. I was on the fence until that. I am now firmly on your team.