AITAH for not letting my husband give our daughter Christmas presents from his affair partner?

A woman recently discovered her husband had been having an affair with a much younger employee. While he claims he wants to end the affair and stay in the marriage, he tried to give their daughter Christmas presents from the other woman.

The wife was horrified and refused, insisting those gifts be donated instead. Her husband thinks she’s being unreasonable, but she believes it’s inappropriate to involve their child in the fallout of his infidelity. Was she right to draw the line? Read the full story below.

‘ AITAH for not letting my husband give our daughter Christmas presents from his affair partner?’

Backstory: I recently found out that my husband was having an affair with one of his employees. If he is found out he will lose his job as a higher up in the company, and she knows it.

He has been trying to end it, making he want to end it with him so that she doesn’t have a reason to turn him in. He doesn’t want to end our marriage and be with her and has asked me to be patient while he lets this die.

Current: She sent him with some presents to give our daughter, and he actually tried to bring them in the house to give to her. He said that I am being unreasonable in saying that no way in hell is he giving our daughter presents from the other woman. For context, he is 53 and she is 31, he had a stupid midlife crisis and has lost his mind.

So AITAH for refusing to let him give her the presents and instead suggesting donating them to Toys for Tots or the hospital or somewhere?

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

No_University5296 −  Your husband is feeding you a load of s**t. He does not want to end the affair. He’s only mad that you found out. And you are not the a**hole throw the toys away. Donate them do something with them and why are you staying with this cheating a**hole

2npac −  “He doesn’t want to end our marriage”. Well wtf are you gonna do about it? You just gonna let him continue with the affair and stay with him? He’s lying to you about wanting her to end and you are just one big giant doormat. NTA I guess for the rest of the story but jeezus kryst lady…wake tf up

Cheap_Direction9564 −  I don’t know if you are the a**hole but ffs wake up. “He has been trying to end it, making he want to end it with him so that she doesn’t have a reason to turn him in. He doesn’t want to end our marriage and be with her and has asked me to be patient while he lets this die.”

I’m sorry, but your profile name is accurate. You have to be a special kind of stupid to think he’s not playing you. *I would really like to quit f**king my 31 year old girlfriend but if I do I’ll get in trouble at work.* Does he actually say this with a straight face?

MyFoundersStayed −  You’re better than me…I’d go right up to the job and throw her gift at her.

RoundGold6729 −  How old are YOU to believe any of the horse 💩 he is feeding you? This is the saddest post I have read this evening. Get yourself away from this mess. You look crazy for accepting this as true; and your husband sounds dumb.

grayblue_grrl −  HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA….. Oh honey…. Get the lawyer on the phone on Monday.

camkats −  He’s lying to you. He needs to be found out. You need to consult an attorney asap.

wlfwrtr −  NTA Someone who is trying to end an affair doesn’t try to bring presents from the AP to his child. He is trying to get you to accept the affair and that the AP isn’t a bad person. He isn’t trying to break it off with her, he’s just trying to get you not to turn him in. Why did you believe someone who proves lying to you is easy?

Good_Ad6336 −  NTA. Hon, respectfully your husband is lying to both of you. He has no interest in ending the affair. He is a c**ard. Why? Because he refuses to take accountability. He is so scared of facing consequences he would rather make you uncomfortable and blame you then come clean and actually ending the affair.

Don’t you see? By saying “oh no, if I end the affair I might lose my job. So if YOU do something to upset my affair partner then every consequence is YOUR fault”. That’s BS. The truth is he is a weak and cowardly man. Otherwise his reaction would be 1. Admit fault 2. End the affair 3.

Face the consequences, including potentially looking for a new job, looking into couples therapy to regain your trust, and actively putting in effort to fix what he broke. Your issue is not gifts from another woman, it’s that your husband has so little regard for you.

FunStorm6487 −  Read the title and nothing else… OP I am ashamed on your behalf for even asking this question??. 🫣🫣🫣

Is it wrong to shield a child from the reality of a parent’s affair, or is the wife right to refuse gifts from the other woman? Should the husband be more mindful of boundaries during this difficult time? Share your thoughts below!