Boyfriend’s best friend (27m) walked in on me (26f) in the shower . How should I proceed ?

A Reddit user shared a shocking experience where their boyfriend’s best friend walked in on them while they were in the shower. The friend, who has a key to the house for emergencies, claimed he was in a hurry to pick up a package but crossed a major boundary by entering the bathroom uninvited and standing there silently for an uncomfortable amount of time.

Now, the user is unsure how to proceed—whether to confront the friend, inform their boyfriend, or take other steps. Read the full story below for more details.

‘ Boyfriend’s best friend (27m) walked in on me (26f) in the shower . How should I proceed?’

I’ve been with my bf (27m) for 2 years now and we have a close relationship with his best friend. Treat him like a brother. The best friend has a habit of showing up unexpectedly at our house, knocking, and simply walking in. He also has a key, so he can let himself in (in case of an emergency).

On Sunday, I was in the shower when I heard a knock on the bathroom door. He said he came to pick up a package which was delivered to our house, but was for him (indeed we received a package for him), and was asking about it. I said to give me a minute,

I would be right out, but he said he was in a hurry, opened the bathroom door and walked in. I was so shocked I just stood there soaking wet, completely frozen. I yelled at him to leave, but he just stood there for a good minute just staring. Didn’t say a word.

Then he left. I got dressed, walked out, but he was gone from the house, the package still waiting for him on the kitchen counter. I have not seen him since then. Idk if I should tell my bf, speak with the friend, or what to do, if anything at all.

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

JustAnotherDude87 −  I’d definitely talk to your boyfriend about it and have the both of you talk to the friend. Some boundaries don’t need to be stated and that includes don’t go into a bathroom that someone is using. He knew better.

d8ukrainians −  This is seriously messed up. I’m sure he knew what he was about to walk in on. Even on the off-chance he didn’t hear the shower water, you could have been on the toilet. And the fact that he didn’t back-off immediately? Gross. Boundaries were crossed and there needs to be a conversation with your boyfriend about it.

Starry-Dust4444 −  He intentionally barged in on you & stood there staring. No way he can claim it was an accident. Total i**asion of your privacy. I would take his key & tell him not to come over anymore. I would feel violated.

[Reddit User] −  There was absolutely no reason for him to go into your bathroom knowing you were in/getting out of the shower to talk about a package. He barged in because he wanted to see you without your clothes on.

Even if what he had to say was urgent you can have conversations through a closed door – and it wasn’t anyway considering he just stood there and then immediately dipped after it happened. You need to explain this to your boyfriend and then you both need to make it clear that it was completely unacceptable for him to do that.

I’d also tell him that you need his key back and that he can’t show up unannounced anymore. I’d also change the locks but wouldn’t tell him that. I personally would preempt the conversation with the boyfriend by sending a text message reiterating what happened and that you were uncomfortable and that it was unnecessary and unacceptable to the friend.

This way you can go to your boyfriend, explain what happened, have the text as a confirmation that it happened, and then talk to the friend together. Not that it should matter but people may think this story is a “cover” for something else having happened and having it written down and sent to the friend ahead of time might help in avoiding that if you think your boyfriend might think that way.

Still_Actuator_8316 −  Tell your boyfriend. That was completely intentional as there is no way his package would be in the bathroom.

Mofis −  This was 100% intentional and s**ual harassment. I would never want to see that guy again.

YouthGlum8041 −  Lol. Okay… no. It is common sense. The boyfriend, this guys best friend… wasn’t home. He knew YOU were in the shower. Any person with respect and decency for literally everyone involved wouldn’t have walked in. And his need had everything to do with a PACKAGE,

he could’ve waited 2 minutes or used his brain and grabbed the package on his own. It’s not rocket science. Once again, it’s common sense. “Hey my buddy’s girl is in there…” MUST have popped into his head. He barges in, disregarding your NONconsent, acts like it was an accident,

and then STARES? No. This guy literally just wanted to peep at you. Please do not fall for his excuses on this front. It’s just simply unacceptable girl.

Illustrious_Site_197 −  Change the locks to the house and lock the bathroom door when you’re in there. That’s pretty creepy!

Different_Cupcake403 −  Why haven’t you told your BF yet? Seriously…

Badbadpappa −  you must tell your boyfriend as soon as possible tell him what happened. Friend open the bathroom door when he knew you were in the shower and then stood there staring, for over 30 seconds with me. screaming to get out Tell him you want to change the locks because you were not comfortable with his friend having a key ever again.