AITA for playing alone after my bf tell me to wait for 3hrs?

A Reddit user shared their frustration about feeling sidelined by their boyfriend’s gaming priorities. After repeatedly waiting to play their favorite game together, they decided to play solo when he asked for more time to game with his friend. Was their reaction justified, or were they being impatient? Read the full story below to decide.

‘ AITA for playing alone after my bf tell me to wait for 3hrs?’

I (23F) and my boyfriend (23M) have been playing 7 Days to Die (7DTD) for about a week, but then we switched to the newly launched game Marvel Rival. He’s become really addicted to it and plays it every day, while I still enjoy playing 7DTD from time to time to relax. The problem is, I don’t want to play it alone.

One day, I asked him to play 7DTD with me, and he agreed (last Friday). However, we ended up playing Marvel Rival instead because he was in the mood for that game. After that, I told him I wanted to play 7DTD a couple more times, but we never set a day to do it.

Today, I asked him again to play 7DTD, and he agreed, but then he mentioned he had already promised to play Marvel Rival with one of his friends, who had been waiting for a couple of hours. He asked if I could wait until 10 p.m. to play 7DTD.
Here’s where I might be in the wrong: I got upset and told him I would just play alone because I didn’t want to wait anymore, since I had been waiting to play for a week. He said I was being impatient and that it wasn’t fair to ditch his friend, even though he had ditched me last Friday to play Marvel Rival.

I was upset for a couple of reasons. First, I have a strict bedtime at midnight, so if we play at 10 p.m., I won’t have enough time to really enjoy the game. Second, I feel like he thinks it’s okay to ditch me, but not his friend. He told me that his friend had been waiting longer and that I should just wait a couple more hours, but I feel like he’s not being fair to me after I’ve been waiting for days.. So AITA ?

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

DJ_Too_Supreme_AITA −  NTA. I (23F) and my boyfriend (23M) have been playing 7 Days to Die (7DTD) for about a week First off, I love 7 Days to Die and I understand why you don’t want to run it alone. It is soooo much more fun with friends and other people.

Second off, clearly your boyfriend has no intentions of running it with you so your reaction and feelings are completely valid. This is similar to trying to get your friend on the game and they say they will get on in 5 minutes but that turns into 5 hours

ktjbug −  NTA!! Omg my husband pulls similar s**t with me for Fortnite all the time and it makes me super mad. You’re “too tired” to play with me but “the guys” text you 20 minutes later and you’re super hype to play?? I know they are more skilled than me but still, would it kill you to join me on something you pushed my getting into in the first place??? The exclusion really really hurts my feelings. I get it, truly, and again NTA and I’m sorry.

Tally0987654321 −  NTA Your BF shouldn’t expect you to wait if he isn’t available. If it’s that important, then he can make it a priority and give you time. Let him know your preference is to play/hang out with him, but that if he unavailable, you will carry on by yourself. It’s selfish of him to demand the time he wants with friends and for you to twiddle your thumbs and wait, especially after a week of asking and you giving in to play the game he wanted instead.

Coffee_Addict1290 −  NTA. He has no intention of playing the game with you, he agreed just to placate you. Now that you’re calling him out on his BS he’s trying to make you into the “bad guy”. He has a complete lack of respect for you and takes you for granted.

Denotok −  NTA he clearly isn’t interested and has been blowing you off.

lil_armbar −  NTA, I’m a huge war game person on Xbox (even Marvel Rivals) but if I can sit down with my wife for 1-2-3-4-5-6-7-8 hours and play Mario party/stardew that’s what I want. Realistically he’s been gaming with his buddies how many times and for how long? Like cool, he can do that and I love to do that too but there’s also something called quality time with your significant other, no matter how it’s spent it’s needed.

tikanderoga −  NTA. Your bf is more than happy to ditch you over ditching his friend, and he can’t even keep a simple promise of playing a game with you. Sorry to hear OP.

BoredofBin −  NTA! You are wrong to do what you did. However if you two can’t get over your “gaming differences” in your relationship then you have bigger and problematic fishes to fry in your relationship.