(update) on having a baby with my married boyfriend & not knowing he was married

A woman previously shared her experience of having a baby with a man who turned out to be married, and this update reveals more about how things have unfolded. She gave birth to a healthy baby girl and has been adjusting to motherhood.

The situation with the married man took a surprising turn as his wife, who had suspected something, reached out. Rather than being angry with the woman, she showed kindness and understanding, even offering support. The wife is now divorcing him, and the woman plans to establish custody and child support legally. Read the original story below.

‘ (update) on having a baby with my married boyfriend & not knowing he was married’

EDIT: image removed because u/eganist said it was ok to ❤️

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First things first: I had my healthy baby girl on Monday evening. We were discharged shortly after birth due to Covid so I have been just trying to adjust to everything. Her birth was a dream and I never want to do it again. Lol.

Second: I talked to his wife for over an hour yesterday. I guess he decided to tell her. She wasn’t mad at me, thank God. She’d had her suspicions but was trying to trust her husband which I understand. She was so nice honestly and even though she isn’t angry at me I still feel bad because she’s such a nice lady.

She wanted to make sure I was doing okay and that I didn’t need anything which made me cry because postpartum hormones are whack. She’s getting a divorce from him (good for her tbh). We are planning to meet up and talk s**t about him once the virus is over.

I have a lawyer and will establish custody and child support legally asap. He hasn’t bothered to contact me at all but I don’t particularly care. I didn’t want to leave anyone hanging even though it’s not a huge update. Thank you to everyone who checked in. It means a lot.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

tfe45 −  The wife sounds like an amazing and understanding human being. Hopefully you have been gifted with an amazing friend after this, if anything.

[Reddit User] −  So glad you’re doing ok and the birth went well. That’s also awesome the wife and you have become friends and she’s kicking him to the curb. It sounds like he’s getting what he deserves. Good luck on your future with your new baby girl!

MarianaTrenchBlue −  I have a friend who was married to a c**ater. She eventually befriended the mistress, who became wife #2. Then he cheated on 2 and they got divorced. When he married the new mistress, friend and #2 came as each other’s dates and danced the whole night, laughing.

The point is: this too shall pass. Keep your head up and try to be kind to each other because your baby has half sibling she may want to know someday.. Good luck. Also f**k that guy.

Bryankc14 −  Good on y’all for kicking his ass out and giving him what he deserved. I didn’t see the original post, but conngrats on your baby girl and I hope you have a great future!

Ebbie45 −  We are planning to meet up and talk s**t about him once the virus is over.. And you both deserve to! Congratulations on a healthy, safe birth. <3

actorsspace −  “not a huge update” Really? You had a baby, he’s getting a divorce, you and the (ex-)wife are now BFFs… but seriously, congrats on all of this, actually, and thanks for the update.

dabulls508 −  This dude just seriously fucked up. So now he is going to get divorced and with the clear and overwhelming evidence of a**ltery he is going to get smoked in that case. His wife will get primary custody of the 2 kids and he will have to pay child support.

Now he lost you and will have to pay child support for the third kid. He has completely burnt any bridge for the two women he loved his older kids will most likely despise him for breaking up the family and based on both of your reactions it does not appear he will have a relationship with this new child.

So in recap he lost half his money, will be paying child support to three kids and two mothers and alimony to one, lost both women he loved, lost almost all relationship with his three children, and is now alone. Well cant say he didn’t deserve it and karma is not real. Enjoy keeping 25% of your earnings buddy what a tool.

tittychittybangbang −  You have a beautiful healthy baby? Check. Wife knows and is holding nothing against you? Check. Cheating POS lost his wife and dignity and will most likely have to relinquish most of his money to the baby and his ex? Check

You are in a good place mentally and can move on from this nonsense and just enjoy being a mum? CHECK Honestly the best update we could have hoped for! Thanks for not leaving us hanging!

hesaidtomakeitwitty −  Glad you and your baby girl are doing well I was wondering about you ❤️stay safe sending love and light to your little family.

dabulls508 −  Out of curiosity did she reach out to you? Did your ex give her your number?

The kindness shown by the wife in this story is a reminder that, even in difficult situations, compassion can go a long way. What do you think about how the wife handled this? Do you believe people can find peace through unexpected kindness? Share your thoughts below!