UPDATE: yesterday I froze during s**, my girlfriend asked if we should stop and I said yes and she backed off. I’ve never been treated like this before.
A man previously shared his experience of freezing during intimacy with his girlfriend, seeking advice from Reddit on how to handle the situation. After writing a heartfelt letter to her, expressing his love and gratitude, he took her to a park where they talked about the future and his struggles.
She responded with empathy, even offering to attend therapy sessions with him to better understand his feelings. This update highlights the positive steps they’ve taken together, and he feels fortunate for her support. Read the original story below.
‘ UPDATE: yesterday I froze during s**, my girlfriend asked if we should stop and I said yes and she backed off. I’ve never been treated like this before.’
I thought I’d update y’all since so many people commented on my previous post. As I said in earlier, I wrote her a letter and it was much more difficult than I thought it would be. But I wrote what was in my heart and how much I loved her and thanked her for supporting me.
I made some of her favourite snacks and took her to a small park nearby. We ate and watched the sunset together and then I gave her the letter I wrote. She cried and hugged me and we sat there talking about future aspects. And then I showed the post to her.
She welled up again and asked if she could come to a few therapy sessions with me so that she could understand better what I was going through. Also it might help her not burn out. I will talk to my therapist about it and we’ll see how it turns out.
But that’s about it. We went home, watched a movie and went to bed. I seriously feel so lucky to have her in my life Here’s to hoping for our best future together. Oh and, I seriously cannot thank you guys enough. Every single one of you who commented (even the rude ones) have made a difference. Seriously y’all are amazeballs. (I know many said to not say it ever again, but I like it so)
Thank you, from the bottom of my heart.
Here’s how people reacted to the post:
oberon − I cannot tell you how great it is to see a positive story on this sub. Also, **holy s**t you actually communicated**. Five gold stars to both of you!
game_grumpette − So glad to hear things ended well. Gives me some faith in humanity.
[Reddit User] − what were the snacks
NoorHan14 − Wife material. Calling it right now.
RedditUser8365 − Everyone liked that
Eulogikos − Can you link the original post?
utupuv − Have a happy life, you two!
[Reddit User] − I am very happy that you have such an amazing girl. Thank you for the update. I wish you two all the best.. Good luck and stay strong!
[Reddit User] − My heart ❤️ I hope you both have a happy and prosperous relationship together, I remember reading the first post but didn’t comment. Your love is the kind of love I’m looking for.
[Reddit User] − Great update. I was pulling for you both. Years ago, I was raped for the second time in my life. A few years later I met my husband (then boyfriend). I broke down crying in s** with him, randomly one night, because something triggered my repressed memory of my second time being raped. We made it through. I also went to therapy for it. Hang in there OP.
When partners work together to understand and support each other, it can be a powerful step toward healing and growth. Have you had experiences where communication and empathy helped strengthen a relationship? Share your thoughts below!