[Update] My(26M) gf(24F) told me she is pregnant but I am sterile

A 26-year-old man shared an update about a recent conflict with his girlfriend, who claimed to be pregnant despite his sterility. After confronting her and cutting ties with unsupportive family members, he decided to take charge of his future by scheduling a vasectomy and setting boundaries for future relationships. Read his reflection on navigating this tough situation below.

‘ [Update] My(26M) gf(24F) told me she is pregnant but I am sterile’

I wanna thank you all for taking your time and reaching out and giving advice. The last few days, I feel like a burden was lifted off me, especially from my parents who always expect many things from me. The first day after the confrontation was a s**t show.

My parents forced relatives to reach out to me asking me to see reason (lmao), I declined. They stopped after 2 days after a harsh message from me requesting no contact.

I also took appointments for family planning (vasectomy) which is next month. Some people asked if I would ever tell my family about this, but I will not. My body, my business.

I will of course tell potential future dates that I am childfree and also had a vasectomy beforehand. Some people asked where I am from. I am from India.

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

throwawaypandaccount −  This is so a**sive, m**ipulative, and devastating. I’m happy for you that you did the smart thing and were able to stick up for yourself to your family – especially in a culture that makes that so hard. It’s time to start living **your** live, no contact with toxic family

ohhhheyyyythrowawy −  Damn, so your parents really tried to trap you into an arranged marriage under the guise of a real relationship? That’s f**king devastating dude… But you’re doing the right thing by cutting them off if they’re going to misguide you like that. I’m so sorry. But things will get better, especially after your vasectomy and you never have to worry about a pregnancy scare again! Best of luck to you

PM_me__hard_nipples −  “PaReNtS KnOw WhAt Is BeSt FoR ThEiR ChIlDrEn” Half of the problems in the world would disappear overnight if parents would mind their f**king business and not barge in into their kid lives, I f**king swear.

Dude, I am proud of you cutting them all from your life. I even envy you a little. With time, you will appretiate that liberating feeling more and more, and I am sure, it will pave your way to success in life without anyone dragging you down to fullfill their ambitions at your expense.. Good luck.

sambeano −  Good update, but why are you getting a vasectomy if you’re already sterile?

[Reddit User] −  Holy s**t man. Just read your previous post. Stay strong. I was also born in India and obviously have Indian parents. I too do no want children, which is very weird in our culture. But f**k culture, it’s my choice.

I married a non Indian girl from New Zealand so parents didn’t want to agree to that too. I just had to make a stand and marry who I wanted. It’s been 7 years since we got married. Other than my mum everyone is cool with it. My mum still doesn’t talk to my wife. I have good relationship with my mum though.

And we have just agreed to move on with them two not talking to each other. I used to care a lot about what others think and everyone’s happiness and then realised that no one was happy. So I decided to make sure that I am happy and my wife is happy and everyone else can worry about their own happiness. It was difficult for like 6 months and then everyone feel into line.

Your parents seem even worse than mine. Lol. Just remember, it’s ok to move away from family if they are toxic. Just because they gave you birth doesn’t mean you owe your life to them. I know it’s not Indian way of thinking but you gotta move on with times and live your life your way.

Good luck and it’s ok to cry as a grown man. It’s another Indian thing that grown men don’t cry. F**k that. Crying can make you feel better and it’s good for your mental health. Don’t buy into that macho b**lshit. Feel free to message me if I can help in any way.

mrp2611 −  Hello fellow Indian. I just read this post and the OG post and lemme assure you, 26 is hardly close to ‘too old to get married’ and all that crap. I’m so sorry you had to go through all this manipulation and deceitful s**t from pretty much every one around you. Stay strong and you will get through this!

wakaaa90 −  man, i rly feel you cause i’m an indian in another SEA country. but you gotta think about how you’re going to go about this whole thing? cause bruh, you and me know that indian parents won’t end there. they’ll go around getting others to try and convince you. if you need to speak to anyone, feel free to DM me!

AlaskaNebreska −  I am so sorry. This is psychological harassment. They almost manipulated you into marrying a l**r and they called it “your best interest”? They are selfish, so very selfish.

drunken-black-sheep −  I wish I could hug you

Potato4 −  Maybe edit into your update that there is a huge update on the main post?

Taking control of your life and setting boundaries is a crucial step toward self-respect and emotional health. What do you think about handling family pressures and prioritizing personal choices? Share your thoughts below!