Bad update to: My husband said that if he ever had to choose to let either me or his parent’s dogs live, he’d choose the dogs, so now I want to leave AITAH?
So I’ve been reading all of your comments and obviously g**lighting myself on if he was joking. He doubled down yesterday morning and said he only answered that way because I was being ridiculous. Idk, I still felt uneasy about everything. First, please read my original post: https://aita.pics/DrjQi
‘ Bad update to: My husband said that if he ever had to choose to let either me or his parent’s dogs live, he’d choose the dogs, so now I want to leave AITAH?’
Last night, I was like sick exhausted. My throat was swollen, my back hurt, and I had gotten two hours of sleep the night before. When I went to go to sleep, this time both dogs were on the bed. I asked if we could lift the dog that can’t walk well to the floor since that’s where he likes to sleep as he can’t get on or off the bed alone. He got up to try to gently move him to the floor but the golden didn’t much prefer it, so my husband instantly gave up. Now mind you, the dog is literally taking up the lower left corner (1/4 or more)of the bed.
I asked if he could gently insist the dog get on the floor. He explained that he will need to move to the floor later in the night but he doesn’t feel like it currently, so no; he wouldn’t be making him move right now if the pup didn’t delight in the thought right this instance. The dog got to stay.
I said this makes no sense to me because you’ll have to wake up from us sleeping to move him later?? He doubled down. I focused on the second dog who was stretched out to consume the entire right half of the bed. My husband laid between them.. Spooning him. That left a small 2 ft by 3 ft area in the upper left corner of the bed for me, and I wasnt allowed to accidentally let my foot touch them in a way the could put pressure on them. Obviously I lost my s**t at this point.
Having read most of your comments, I started telling him this was insane, to grow up, to actually put me first, or go marry your dogs. I said this is so pathetic and embarrassing for me to be of less value than your dogs do you. You can’t put your golden through slight discomfort and move them to the floor so your sick wife can sleep?
He responds with, “move to the guest room.”. I said no. He’s says “fine, I’ll move to the guest room.” I said I really want to actually spend time with you since my kiddo is out of town. We never spend time together. Let’s both go to the guest room and the dogs can have our bed. He says NO, it has to be just ONE of us, because he wants the dogs to have one adult as a comfort presence AND both have full access to the bed.
I obviously am floored at this point. Around this time the dog that sleeps on the floor somehow moved himself off the bed to the floor, even though I didn’t think he could without help due to his hips. My husband notices and instantly freaks out asking if I made the dog get off the bed. I said no. He then says I should leave, I’m insane, he wants a divorce, and they will always be more important to him. He slept holding them so gently and scrumptiously.
So that’s the story of how I’m sitting upstairs trying to figure out how to pack my stuff and leave to spend Christmas Eve and Christmas alone. Because I’m less than two dogs. Oh, and it’s storming outside.
Check out how the community responded:
Sensitive_Ad2681 − Okay there’s no way this is real… how did you go from being told to get out and go to the guest room… to begging him to spend time with you and value you.. to HIM asking for a divorce? This is actually nuts. He’s treating those dogs like he’s married to them; you should’ve long ago been disgusted enough to leave him. Now it’s his idea and he’ll make YOU look insane. Either way, if this is real…. RUN!!
Limp_Sherbert_5169 − **This has to be fake, there’s absolutely no way this is real.** How would you not have noticed this behavior earlier in the relationship before asking a random hypothetical question. Such a ridiculous premise. At least it’s not AI generated this time so points for that I guess.
PatchEnd − info: How do you hold a dog “scrumptiously”?
NoGoverness2363 − If this isn’t rage bait you’re the most spineless person in the world.
Rosko1450 − Why are you leaving though? Tell that l**er to take his children and go back to his parents.
Rowana133 − Wow. Yeah, why doesn’t HE leave? Personally, I’d tell him to take his dogs back to his mommy’s house and absolutely serve him with divorce papers. Man baby can go live with his mommy and dogs.
joemc225 − Don’t leave unless you want to. Personally, I think he should take the dogs with him to his parents’ house and you stay there. From what you’ve posted, it’s easy to imagine your husband is mentally ill, or at least very, very weird. In either case, cut your losses and take the divorce. Because this can’t be how you want to spend the rest of your life.
Unkle_bad-touch − SCRUMPTIOUSLY 😂😂 if it wasn’t fake before, well it is now…
VegetableBusiness897 − There was a reason this Ahole was still living with mommy and daddy until you married him…. But for anyone in an uncomfortable pet in bed origami situation like this, the solution is simple. Take the top of the bed along the headboard, along with the pillows. Not that I’ve ever done that before….
vixen_xox − this cannot be real wtf is this.