UPDATE: AITA for causing a rift in my brother’s marriage by calling out my sister-in-law for lying in front of everyone at my Christmas party?

I want to start by saying thank you to everyone that read my post and tried to give me advice or just overall help me feel better about the entire situation. I originally intended to look more in depth at the comments and reply to some/answer questions, but I’ve too stressed and too preoccupied because so much has happened in a short time. I now have a lot of new information to share that has changed everything. First, please read my original post: https://aita.pics/AHyCo

‘ UPDATE: AITA for causing a rift in my brother’s marriage by calling out my sister-in-law for lying in front of everyone at my Christmas party?’

My brother is now going to be staying with my wife and I for the time being. We decided this when he unexpectedly arrived late last night, and we had a long talk where I learned the full scope of everything that had happened with Hannah after the party up until now.

He said that after taking some time and space away from her, he asked her to have a sit-down talk. He explained to me that during this time he realized she was 100% lying and I was 100% telling the truth, but still wanted to try and give her a chance to fully explain why she would act the way she did, why she would lie, and how she could justify treating him and I this way.

Hannah tried to deflect and gaslight him when first confronted, but when he made it clear he wasn’t having it, she snapped…. and admitted to him that she’s always disliked me, and the main reason why is because she’s uncomfortable with “my lifestyle.” She went on to say that Jess makes her the most uncomfortable due to her appearance and what she wears (my wife is extremely masculine-presenting) and that she’s just so sick and tired of pretending none of this upsets her. There was more, but Alex said that was all he was going to tell me.

All of that was of course her reasoning for lying to my brother by telling him that I allowed the baby to attend the wedding last minute, and that she had secretly hoped her baby would fuss or cry and ruin part of the ceremony (which obviously happened). She explained that she wanted to do something similar for the Christmas party in order to make me look unhinged and like I didn’t want them there, making the wedding incident seem like a completely different situation to the family, one where *she* is the martyr and I the aggressor.

I always knew she didn’t like me, but f**k I didn’t realize she was so h**ophobic that the mere fact Jess and I exist at all is detrimental to her. I decided that I’ll never tell my wife the details Alex told me, but I’m honestly glad I know all of this now. I’ll never feel guilty for calling out s**tty behavior from people ever again.

Alex assured me that he was extremely disgusted with her and what she said, and had absolutely no idea she felt this way at all. But, he then told me he wasn’t actually done telling me everything she confessed. Here’s where s**t REALLY hits the fan:

Hannah, after going on her h**ophobic rant, started to get antsy and pace around the room, leaving my brother just sitting there, devastated and confused. After a few minutes of said pacing, she continued to confess to my brother, now explaining that not only is she having an affair, she is also 100% certain he’s not the biological father of their child they’ve been raising together these past 11 months.

What made things even worse was, after some prying, she eventually let it slip that the affair has been going on for 6 F**KING YEARS. She claimed it was “love at first sight” when she first met her college friend’s older brother “Josh” (42M) at a party 6 years ago, but she also knew she never wanted to lose my brother as he was “her perfect match” which obviously makes zero sense all things considered.

Also, for some added context, they’ve been married for around 6 years, meaning she has been having an entire secret, serious relationship with another man for the entirety of her marriage to my brother. Safe to say I am completely shocked and all I’ve been doing is spending time with Jess and also Alex. He has been staying with us as I mentioned above, since things are extremely tense and hostile between him and Hannah.

They are obviously going to be getting a divorce, but with Christmas literally around the corner, everything is “on pause” according to him. I respect this, but also cannot WAIT for her to officially no longer be in our lives. As for Hannah- she seems to have quite literally moved on overnight with Josh and their baby. Overall, I cannot believe she’d betray my brother like that and I’m sad to know she’s been so hateful towards me because of my s*xuality. I don’t know if I’ll have another update but maybe? I just feel so depleted after yesterday.

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

ElehcarTheFirst −  Wow! So many of these homophobes are really not keeping up with their “morals” by cheating as over the place. I hope your brother can make a clean split and the baby isn’t his. I’m sorry your brother is hurting and I’m proud of you for calling HER BS out.

HunterandGatherer100 −  I’m sorry you’re feeling defeated, but she’s an a**hole. You didn’t do anything wrong.

lapsteelguitar −  Well, isn’t she a warm pile of “ick”? You are doing a good thing for your brother.. NTA.

z-eldapin −  So, I bought the first story. You’ve gone just a bit too far with the update, and now none of it is believable.

davekayaus −  Your brother needs to book in a paternity test, and if what his cheating wife says is true, he needs his name removed from that birth certificate before any divorce is finalised. Legally, that child is his right now, biology doesn’t matter.

Emotional-Hair-1607 −  “Gay people are making a mockery of marriage”. Now excuse me while I go f**k my AP and trick my husband into raising someone else’s kid.

KindomHartz −  Of all things that didn’t happen, this is no. 1. Original story sounds belieavable but you ruined it with this update. This is all levels of over-the-place wild a** imagination.

Late-Champion8678 −  Jumped the shark with this fake story. Should have waited much longer to update.

w0mbatina −  Man, I really wish all these fantasy writers would have known where to stop. The first 4 paragraphs, yeah, believable. But then revealing her master plan like a bond villain? And then uh oh, plot twist, the baby isnt his! And she just volunteers this information. Just, cmon, at least put *some* effort into it.

GypsyRosebikerchic −  YTA. For typing out such a long, nonsensical rage bait POS post.