My girlfriend (25F) has not texted me (25M) in over 2 days.

A 25-year-old man is concerned because his girlfriend, with whom he has been in a long-distance relationship for 3 months, has not texted or contacted him in over two days. Normally, they stay in touch daily, even playing chess together online.

Her lack of communication has left him worried, and he’s unsure if he’s overreacting or if something might be wrong. He has also reached out to her sister but hasn’t received a response yet.

‘ My girlfriend (25F) has not texted me (25M) in over 2 days.’

To start things off, my girlfriend and I have been dating for 4 years. Right now, I live in City A and she lives in City B. About 3 months ago, she moved to a City B for a job offer. Right now, I live in City A, where we lived together.

But, I will be moving in 1.5 months to City B (a colleague recruited me to his company when my girlfriend moved to City B). Prior to her moving, my girlfriend and I always tried to play a round of chess against each other every day. Since she moved, we have been playing chess against each other (online obviously).

We normally do a couple moves a day during the weekdays and finish it during the weekend. But, she has not done her move in 2 days. That’s fine, work may be busy, as has happened before, to both of us. But, she usually texts me when she can’t and always texts me to do my move.

She hasn’t called, texted, or emailed me in 2 days. Social media has no activity either. I am beginning to get concerned because it is not like her to have no contact for this long. I texted her sister a few hours ago and asked her if she had heard from (girlfriend), but no response yet. Her sister lives a couple hours away. Am I just overreacting and making something out of nothing? I hope I am. Or do I continue to reach out?

Here’s how people reacted to the post:

[Reddit User] −  It’s really strange her sister wouldn’t answer too. Are you sure you guys aren’t in a fight ?

Not-all-is-lost −  First you need to contact one of her family members to check that she is OK. If she is, then you have to accept that she does not want to call you.

UnsightlyFuzz −  This could be her ghosting you, but I’m also worried she could be in trouble (abducted, in the hospital, whatever). Can you call her company and ask if she’s been in? Awkward I know, but makes sense. It’s also possible to ask police in another city to do a welfare check, but be prepared for them to downplay your concerns.

You can call hospitals if you really want to. I’m guessing, since you’re not married, she wouldn’t have had a card on her person saying to call you in case of emergency. Her parents?

ginger-loving-asian −  Over a day of no contact is enough to make me worry. When that happens I usually call my SO just so I know if the phone is ringing (and you’d find out if your calls will get rejected or sent to voicemail). Text won’t really guarantee a quick response, but calling her is better. Go for it.

SomeoneSomewhere1984 −  It’s possible her phone just died, and she’s working on replacing it.

iSoReddit −  Why would you not phone her?