UPDATE: I don’t know what to expect for my [23F] date with my best friend [23M] and I don’t feel ready for it

A 23-year-old woman shared an update about her first date with her best friend of seven years, which turned out to be a heartwarming success. Despite her initial anxiety about ruining their friendship, the date exceeded her expectations, complete with a thoughtful outdoor movie setup and a visit to a new bookstore café she’d wanted to explore.

Their first kiss brought excitement instead of fear, and she now feels their relationship has seamlessly evolved into something deeper without losing the essence of their friendship.

For those who want to read the previous part: https://aita.pics/YOXOh

‘ UPDATE: I don’t know what to expect for my [23F] date with my best friend [23M] and I don’t feel ready for it ‘

My head is still spinning from our date last night. I was so nervous that I felt sick and I literally almost canceled last minute, but I’m so happy that I went through with it! I told him beforehand that I had anxiety about not knowing where he was taking me and I didn’t know what to wear.

He still wouldn’t give away the surprise but he did tell me to dress comfortably, so I just wore one of my nice casual dresses. He made us an outdoor drive-in movie theatre (don’t ask me how he did it because I’m hopeless with technology) where we watched my favorite movie and he brought popcorn and my favorite chocolate!

Afterwards he took me to this new bookstore cafe in our town which had just opened and I had been dying to go to. I was so happy when he finally kissed me even though I had been previously dreading that he would. We actually kissed quite a bit. I found that my heart was beating not from nerves this time, but from genuine excitement.

Now I look forward to intimacy with him and I feel like it’ll just make us even closer. It’s still unbelievable to me that this is happening, but it doesn’t scare me anymore.
I never thought Connor would ever make me feel like this. In my head it just wasn’t a possibility since we were such good friends.

I couldn’t be happier that I decided to give him a chance instead of just immediately shutting it down in fear of ruining the friendship. In reality, our friendship was never in any danger. Yes, there are real differences between dating and just being best friends but there are WAY more similarities than I was expecting.

The conversation still flowed the same way it did when we were only friends and we still have plenty of fun and laughs. I’m overjoyed that our friendship dynamic hasn’t changed because I was mainly worried that things would be awkward now and I wouldn’t know how to behave around him.

Now it feels like we’re friends who just happen to be dating and IMO that’s exactly how things should be. Seeing how happy he is just feels like the cherry on top.

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

[Reddit User] −  I am pretty sure I just barfed sprinkles

EMS1224 −  I am so so happy this worked out as well as it did and you got comfortable!!! I just married my childhood best friend of 24 years earlier this year and being married to my absolute best friend has been the most amazing experience ever

Fox_Trail −  This makes us all happy

petrichor21 −  LOVE this! Started dating my best friend after 2 years of friendship, now been together for 7 with our first baby on the way 🥰. Dating your best friend is THE best.

buon_natale −  I want to puke at how adorable this is. Congratulations OP!

Peace_Bubble −  A wise woman once told me “to make sure I marry my best friend.” That woman was my grandmother and she was married to my grandfather for 50 years. Although I am just now reading your story I am so glad you gave him a chance. He already knows everything about you so the hard part of deciding wether or not you will like each other is long gone in 7 years.

A random guy you meet could not nail the first date the way he did because a random guy is not going to know your favorite movie or favorite candy. Definitely though make sure you put as much effort into dating him as you would any other guy. If you normally get dressed and dolled up for dates do the same for him.

Just because you have hung out in PJs before doesn’t mean you should slack on dating attire. Congratulations OP I am glad you didn’t over think the situation to the point where it didn’t happen. Trust me he is just as nervous as you and thinking all the same things you are!

Eccodomanii −  So happy for you! My partner started out as my best friend too; we’ve been together almost 4 years now and we’re planning our wedding! We have the same easy, fun relationship we’ve always had, just with added depth and the bonus that I get to kiss his handsome face any time I want. Some nights we still end up staying up too late giggling. Falling in love with your best friend is truly the best 💕

stlukes21 −  Good on you for giving it a chance. 5 years ago I confessed feelings for my best friend, but the situation was different in a few respects. Ultimately we never took a shot at it. I chose to remain friends with her and things are more or less the same and as good as ever. But I’ll go to my grave contending we could have had something very special. Wishing you two the best.

silverforest5 −  Yay!! I dated my best guy friend after 11 years of friendship (and after dating each other’s friends, LOL). We have been married 10 years now, and have a toddler; so glad we took the initial step. Excited to read about others like us 🙂

franks09 −  You deserve this! I’m so happy for you!!!