UPDATE: Me [36F] with my ex boyfriend [36M] of over 10 years, his wife [40F] has alienated him from all his friends and family and has started messaging me

A woman shares the heartwarming resolution of her ex-boyfriend’s struggle with an abusive wife. With her husband’s clever intervention, they managed to help her ex escape and reunite with his family. The story concludes with her ex on the path to healing and an exciting personal twist: she’s expecting a baby with her supportive husband! Read the full uplifting update below.

‘ UPDATE: Me [36F] with my ex boyfriend [36M] of over 10 years, his wife [40F] has alienated him from all his friends and family and has started messaging me’

Hi, even though my original post didn’t get a lot of attention, there were some good responses and I thought I would update everyone as A LOT has happened in the last couple of weeks!

So I forwarded her messages to my ex’s brother Fred. He called me immediately and said that he would try to get a hold of his brother as soon as possible. I forgot to say in my earlier post but Bill works as an independent consultant/contractor in IT so it was hard getting a hold of him in his workplace. Frank received a few responses from Bill, just short emails saying he was ok, but Fred wasn’t really buying it.

Thankfully I hadn’t received any more messages from Fiona (I didn’t reply to any of her emails so I guess she gave up on me). I didn’t think there was much more that anyone could do so just got on with looking after my own family.

My husband (let’s call him Dan) knew that I was worried about my ex, and as a testament to what a great guy he is he set about trying to contact him as they both work in the same field of IT (I know apparently I have a very specialized ‘type’ lol). Dan is close to his boss and told him about the situation.

Dan’s boss contacted Bill through Linkedin to set up a Skype “consult”. Dan’s reasoning is that if Fiona is monitoring Bill’s emails and social media then this will fly under her radar as she doesn’t know Dan’s boss and his connection to us. My husband is a sneaky clever b**tard.

They scheduled the call a day later and my husband hopped onto the call as well. He didn’t tell me exactly what he said, but the gist of it is that Dan and his boss told Bill that we were all worried about him and that if he needed help to just let us know. Bill broke down and started crying. He felt so helpless and thought that no one cared about him.

Turns out she was reading all his emails and deleted all the ones from his family as well as controlling all the finances. She was also physically assaulting him and was too embarrassed to tell anyone (she’s just shy of 5 foot, he’s 6’4”). Dan and his boss told him to pack his bags and head to the airport and they bought him a one way ticket back home!

Bill arrived home a week or so ago and he’s doing well. He’s staying with his mother and father and Fred has been helping him get back on his feet and handle the legal stuff.

Needless to say they are extremely grateful to my husband and his boss and have paid back the cost of the ticket as well as buying Dan and his boss several bottles of very expensive bourbon (which they insisted on, we were happy to cover the ticket but weren’t going to argue with them).

Dan and I told them that now he’s home we were going to take a step back. His family is looking after him now and they don’t need our help anymore we’ll still keep in touch though and I think we’ll always be close to Bill and his family from now on. Fred did tell me that she doesn’t want to come back home so we don’t have to worry about her turning up on our doorstep.

I don’t know how Fiona reacted (she hasn’t sent me any emails so I don’t think she knows I was involved) or what’s going to happen legally because I don’t want to be so involved anymore. It’s time we focused on our family for a bit because I’M PREGNANT! Couldn’t have picked a better man to breed with. Also, Dan’s boss let Dan bill the hours of Bill’s rescue as “personal development” because there are still decent people in the world.

**tl;dr: My instincts were right, Bill was being abused emotionally and physically by his crazy (now ex) wife. My husband and his boss staged an intervention under the guise of work and bought Bill a plane ticket home. Bill’s doing fine. He’s going to counselling and everyone is giving him lots of support. My husband and I had fun times and now I’m knocked up.**

Check out how the community responded:

MissTheWire −  Its so great to hear a situation where so many people stepped in to help-while keeping good boundaries. You don’t see a lot of that in this sub. congrats on the little one. I hope you have an easy pregnancy.

genesisofDOOM −  A+ on this entire update! This post had everything: travel, high stakes job interviews, awesome boss, a supportive husband, good triumphing over crazy, Fiona stuck on a giant island, and pregnancy! Seriously, so glad Bill is safe and I hope he goes into therapy and gets the support of his family.

missmatchedsox −  You, your husband, and his boss are lovely people. Hopefully ~~Fred~~ Bill can stay out of Fiona’s clutches and his new life is much better. Domestic violence and abuse is horrible, that’s so sad she had trapped him. Glad he’s out and free! She sounds horrendous.

okey_dokey_bokey −  Wow. Huge, huge kudos to you, your awesome husband, and his awesome boss. e- And props to /u/Green7000 for the solid advice in the original thread.

ms_hyde_is_back −  Wow. What a ride. I’m so glad Bill is okay. Good looking out, OP.

honeyfall −  Every person who has been through domestic violence deserves to have someone like you, who won’t give up on them no matter how much their abuser tries to isolate them.

LuLuLog −  Your husband is an absolute rock star! You are BOTH wonderful people. I’m so glad things worked out and hope Bill is on the road to recovery. It sounds like he has the tools he needs, with supportive family and friends in his corner.

503_Ravens_Fan −  We IT people are sly bastards when we want to be… Your husband is da real MVP for real. What a bad ass. I can only hope to be half the man he his. If any one in the world is owed a beer, its this dude.

sjlwood −  Y’all are some incredible people. Good on you and your husband OP.

Onahole_for_you −  Wow! You and your husband are amazing! So your new baby will be named after your husband right? OR he chooses the name? What about his boss – does his boss have a s**tty name?. Congratulations! Also I’m in Australia, I volunteer to send her a thousand brown snakes and tiger snakes because being a**sive is not cool!

This story highlights the power of community, creativity, and compassion in helping someone escape a toxic situation. Have you ever witnessed or participated in a rescue like this? Share your thoughts or similar experiences below!