[UPDATE] I [29F] am traveling overseas to meet my online “boyfriend” [38M] in a week. He just said he had to cancel?
A 29-year-old woman shares an update on her situation with her online boyfriend after he canceled their plans to meet in person. She decided to end the relationship, went on her solo trip to Ireland, and had an incredible experience. The trip allowed her to reflect on herself and her personal growth, while she chose to focus on real-life connections moving forward. Read the full story below.
‘ [UPDATE] I [29F] am traveling overseas to meet my online “boyfriend” [38M] in a week. He just said he had to cancel?’
After my post I FaceTimed him to say my what I wanted to say and end things. He tried to get me to post-pone my trip and even tried to give me money to make me less mad at him. I told him whatever we had was over as I could no longer trust him. He cried which made me feel weird. I wished him and his ex the best and ended the call.
I went on my trip and had a top class time. The Reddit community really astounds me sometimes. I received a lot of PMs of suggestions of things to do and see and the trip to Ireland became a trip of a lifetime.
In Dublin I did meet up with a very kind Redditor who showed me around the city and came with me to a bunch of museums during my stay. I saw amazing sights, met a bunch of really cool people through my travels, and met a few really cute Irish boys. (;
I learned a lot about myself on my first solo trip abroad. I am pretty self reliant and I did a lot of self reflection. This “relationship” was my first “serious” one after my ex and I split up. I think in my desire for closeness with someone I ignored a lot of red flags and downplayed my self worth.
I am now focusing on making real connections with people I meet in real life and have decided to stay away from anything long distance indefinitely. My first night in Belfast I did message him after I had had a what was probably too many beers (damn you delicious Irish beers!) and he said he was sorry but it was what it had to be.
It didn’t really seem sincere and it extinguished any romantic notions I had. Thank you to everyone who commented and PM’d me. It really made me excited for my trip and it was the best time!
TLDR; Online BF backed out but after some logistical rearranging I still went on my trip and had the best time ever. Glad I cancelled the bf and not the trip.
Here’s the comments of Reddit users:
abeanbun − Glad I cancelled the bf and not the trip. I love this, lol! I’m glad I caught the update post, and am so happy that you went through with the trip! Wishing you oodles of happiness and success in the future, OP. ♥
madcar23 − “*My first night in Belfast I did message him after I had had a what was probably too many beers (damn you delicious Irish beers!) “* From Belfast! I have texted many unworthy Irishmen after drinking our delicious Irish beers – I feel you!
Fonnmhar − As an Irish person, I am really delighted to hear that you had an amazing time even if the circumstances that brought you here sucked. Well done you for following through and making the best out of the situation! 🙂
Jackie_Rudetsky − Dollars to donuts says there was no car accident. She’s his wife.
Landros − Well done! Glad it was a good experience in the end 😁
lemonianta − As another person who lives in Belfast (hi everyone else) I’m really glad you had a great time! I wanted to reply in your original thread (when you said you’d be travelling solo) that you’ll never be solo anywhere in Ireland if you don’t want to be, but I guess you’ve found that out by now! G’wan ye girl ye! (You have to read that in a really thick Norn Irish accent)
BleuDePrusse − That was your rebound guy: a safe online and long distance relationship, fantasized more than lived. And bonus point for the happy ending that taught you a lot about yourself!
warpus − I learned a lot about myself on my first solo trip abroad.. Join us at /r/solotravel !!. And happy future travels 🙂
HighOnGoofballs − r/solotravel. It’s really underrated, traveling alone can be great
fizzvoting − Glad you had a good trip!
Have you ever had an experience that made you reflect on your past choices and prioritize your own growth? How do you handle relationships that don’t go as planned? Share your thoughts and personal experiences in the comments below!