AITAH for saying I can’t bring food to a party after traveling across the country?

A Reddit user is traveling across the country on Christmas Eve and attending Christmas dinner hosted by their sister’s in-laws. The host asked them to bring dessert for everyone, but they declined, citing the challenges of traveling and their late arrival. A family member responded with a dismissive comment, making the user wonder if they’re in the wrong for not bringing food to the event. Read the full story below.

‘ AITAH for saying I can’t bring food to a party after traveling across the country?’

I am traveling to the opposite side of the country for the holidays. Getting there on Christmas Eve at 6PM, going to my sisters husbands family house for Christmas dinner. That family asked me to bring dessert for everyone. I told them I won’t be able to bring anything because I’m traveling. And got sent back with a “wow ok, everyone else is bringing food”. They 100% know I’m traveling from far to be there. They also know what time I will be getting in.

AITAH for not going to get something in this time? Edit: I am flying. I get in at 6 PM on Christmas Eve. Edit 2: this is wild, I expected to get off work to 10 replies to respond to. Here is some more info that I saw a few people asking.

• The text happened on a group chat his family made for everyone attending. Everyone was told what food to bring in that chat.
• The person who said that back to me was his aunt. It’s her house the dinner is being held at.
• And I will update what happens. Right now I am just leaning towards showing up with nothing. This trip is mainly to spend Christmas morning with my sister, her husband, nieces and nephews on Christmas morning opening gifts. The dinner is more of a tag along thing since I’m already there.

Here’s how people reacted to the post:

camkats −  NTA but I dare you to buy some candy bars at the airport. 😂

shellersb −  Tell them you’ll bring trifle then tell them it was confiscated at the airport 🤷 ETA… My first ever award 😁. I’m a bit excited. I’m like a child 🤣. Thank you anonymous member you’ve made my day. ❤️

The_Bad_Agent −  NTA what are they expecting from a person who is flying in?!

AmalatheaClassic −  NTA but you really should bring a bag of McDonald’s apple pies from the airport & drop it on the table like a petty j**k in front of everyone. Make sure it rattles the dishes when it thunks down. “I brought the pie you demanded!”

jensmith20055002 −  My aunt who lived an hour away always showed up with a large bag of M&Ms and a bowl from the dollar store. “I don’t cook and I’m proud of it.” That was her contribution for decades. There may have been some eye rolling but damn those M&Ms always got eaten haha! Edit: NTA – seriously if they really wanted you to bring a dessert, they could have asked you before you booked the tickets so you could order a fancy/special cheese cake from Mama’s Little Bakery in Chicago.

SpecialistAfter511 −  Who the hell expects guests to at is traveling from out of town to provide a dish? You have no car. No kitchen. You’re tired, and have a suitcase you’re lugging around.

Snarky75 −  I would have responded with “Wow is everyone else traveling thousands of miles too” Or can you do the shopping for me? Are you expected to bake in someone else’s kitchen when you get there?

RJack151 −  NTA. Sounds like after you land you need to stop at a gas station and get some Hostess treats.

Sea_Firefighter_4598 −  NTA. Is it too late to cancel your plans? You’ve just been given a preview of your holiday.

karjeda −  Tell your sister to pick something up and you’ll reimburse her or Get something from a store bakery, be late getting there, Let them know why. Good grief. Amazing your sister can’t help out.