My (22f) Husband (29M) keeps telling me to come to Reddit about our arguments. so here I am. Do all men feel how my husband feel?

A young mother reached out to Reddit to share her struggles in a challenging marriage. She describes feeling unappreciated and overwhelmed as she juggles caring for their infant, managing household chores, and navigating her husband’s expectations about gender roles and respect.

Despite her efforts, her husband criticizes her, withholding affection unless she meets his standards. The user asks for honest input, as her husband will also be reading the responses.

‘ My (22f) Husband (29M) keeps telling me to come to Reddit about our arguments. so here I am. Do all men feel how my husband feel?’

I (22f) have been with my partner (29m) for coming up on 3 years, and our daughter is 4 months old. He makes sure to let me know how lazy I am, even though I’m the only one to care for our daughter or clean our house.

He works a lot and when he comes home, he spends a couple hours on the game and he might hold our daughter for a couple minutes. He says that since I’m staying home caring for our infant alone I should have dinner made, the dogs and p** should be fed, watered (obviously), and walked.

Trash should be burned. Dishes should be clean. Floor swept and mopped. His other kids rooms clean. Every surface wiped down. He also says that there ARE gender roles and this is what a woman should do to keep her man happy.

According to him I don’t deserve to be loved on until I’ve finished the chores and put the baby to sleep by myself and made sure that he feels loved and cared for. Our daughter won’t take a bottle and he won’t help me with bottles so I can’t go back to work but I’m also not helping financially.

He doesn’t stay up with our daughter. If I don’t initiate s** we don’t have s**. He straight up said he’s won’t touch me in ways that please me Because he’s “not in high school”. I feel crazy. He’s obsessed with the concept of disrespect.

Everything I do is disrespectful- if the dishes aren’t clean, if the floors not mopped, if I leave little trinkets around the house, if I started projects that I didn’t get to finish and forgot about when the baby woke up, or.

If the baby has been a little fussy and I’m feeding her when he gets home I’m a fat lazy waste of space and why didn’t I get anything done today. I don’t text him throughout the day telling him sweet little nothings, so I must not love him.

I can’t choose between being a mom and a partner even though sometimes I have to because my daughter ISNT CAPABLE OF CARING FOR HERSELF. it’s like he’s mad that I can’t be his mother for him, right? So Reddit. What do y’all think? Please be honest because he will absolutely be seeing every word.

Here’s what people had to say to OP:

KnitSheep −  I’m going to go ahead and say there’s a reason why his other baby mama is proudly wearing her title of EX and you should probably go ahead and explore that same title and also wear it with pride once achieved.

Minute-Aioli-5054 −  I’ve read this and I want to divorce your husband for you.

sugarfoot00 −  I’m assuming you’re going to show this thread to your husband, so I’ll just speak directly to him. Dude, you’re a grade-a cunt that doesn’t deserve this woman. I’m not expecting you to suddenly start respecting her as a human, because that’d require you respecting yourself first.

Real men are partners with their spouse. Real men spend time with their kids and their share of the parenting. Real men make their wives feel cared for and loved.

You’re just a boy. It’s probably why you chased down a naive 19 year old when you were 26- any woman your own age would have seen right through your b**lshit. But guess what? Now this one does as well.

MidnytStorme −  And now you know why he’s knocking up women barely out of their teens instead of women his own age. Cause he thinks you won’t know any better. His mistake was telling you to come to Reddit. Cause now you know better. Now do something about it. Don’t let your kid grow up thinking this is how relationships should look. Get out.

MckittenMan −  Well, good thing you came here… Your husband sounds like a total AH. He is more about ripping on you instead of loving you. Yes, in a stay at home set up like this… Each of you have your roles to play. However… He gets to come home from work and have time off.. Where is your time off?

Your job never ends. He also needs to be capable of giving you a break as well and play his part as a husband and father occasionally. Sounds like quite the a**sive relationship tbh. Like he loves having authority over you. We get into relationship to love each-other… Not be servants. He treats you like a servant.

yawaworthemn −  He’s a monster. 

2workigo −  He doesn’t consider you a partner, he considers you an indentured servant.

thehellvetica −  and p** should be fed, He talking about himself here or.. 🤔

staircasegh0st −  Truly astonishing own-goal for the “dude with a video game addiction who got with a teenager with a giant age gap and has kids by 3 different women and won’t do chores” to think that sending someone to the Relationship Advice sub was going to make *you* look like the unreasonable one.

Do “all men” feel the way your husband feels? No, not outside of some very specific valleys on the Pakistan/Afghanistan border.