(Update) I 19/F have messed up my whole life since I started dating my 23/M boyfriend ?

A Reddit user, 19/F, shares the latest update in her tumultuous and abusive relationship with her 23/M boyfriend. After an escalating series of violent incidents, including being locked in a room and physically assaulted, she finally made the brave decision to escape with her sister’s help.

However, her boyfriend continues to harass and manipulate her, even threatening her sister. Amid all this, the user discovers she’s pregnant, adding another layer of complexity to her already overwhelming situation. Now, she’s determined to take the first step to protect herself and her sister by reporting him.

For those who want to read the previous part: https://aita.pics/VlVkg

‘ (Update) I 19/F have messed up my whole life since I started dating my 23/M boyfriend ?’

I thought I had it under control when he came back, but I was wrong. I had neatly folded my clothes in the wardrobe, hidden any documents I didn’t want him to find under them. For a while, things seemed normal, or at least I tried to pretend they were.

Then, one morning before he left for work, I made the fatal mistake of calling my sister. I hadn’t cleared my call log, and I knew he’d find out. Later that day, he came home furious. He demanded to know why I had called her, accusing me of betraying him by reaching out to someone who “hates us.”

He shouted, his anger filling the room as he slammed his fist against the wall. I froze, barely able to speak. My only defense was that I missed her, that the call had ended in an argument, and I wouldn’t call again. But that didn’t matter.

In a blur of rage, he slapped me hard across the face. He told me that if I kept doing things behind his back, he could never love or trust me again. His anger quickly escalated, and before I could fully comprehend what was happening, he grabbed me by my hair and shoved me into the bedroom.

He locked the door from the outside, leaving me trapped inside. He took my phone, saying I couldn’t be trusted with it while he was gone. I was left alone, unable to contact anyone, and unsure if my sister would still come. But then, through the window, I saw her car pull up.

I opened the window just enough to talk to her. I explained that I was locked in, and told her where the spare key was. She arrived, unlocked the door, and we quickly packed what I needed. As we left, I left him a note saying I wasn’t coming back.

In the car, I cried, apologizing to my sister for everything I had put her through. She gave me an old spare phone, insisting I keep it and use it to stay in touch. She told me I could stay with her as long as I needed.

That night, I couldn’t bring myself to call my parents. I wasn’t ready for that conversation, especially after everything that had happened. I wasn’t sure what my next steps would be, but I knew I couldn’t go back to him.

A few hours after we arrived at my sister’s, he called her phone. His anger was palpable even through the phone. He demanded to know if she had seen me, and when she denied it, he started accusing me of losing my mind.

He painted me as someone who was dangerous to be around, even claiming I had been lashing out. He told her that I was a threat to myself and others, and that if she saw me, she should call him immediately. It seemed like an attempt to turn her against me, to make her doubt me.

My sister didn’t buy any of it, but she played along, pretending to believe him for the moment. After the call ended, we both felt uneasy. Had it been the right thing to do? Then, the next day, he showed up at my sister’s house. He knocked on the door, and my sister, not unlocking it fully, asked what he wanted.

He demanded to come in, insisting that he knew I was there and needed to talk to me. My sister remained firm, saying I wasn’t there. But he was persistent, trying to force his way inside. He cursed at her, called her names, and threatened her. My sister stood her ground, telling him she would call the police if he didn’t leave.

He didn’t leave immediately, but when he saw that my sister was serious, he finally backed off. Before he left, he threatened her, saying she would regret coming between us.

After the confrontation, I asked my sister not to call the police, not yet. I wasn’t ready for that. I told her I would report him, but first, I needed to speak to our parents. We called them and made plans to meet up later. I knew I had to take action, but I wanted to talk to them first. I didn’t want my sister to be in more danger.

Despite everything, part of me feared that staying with my sister would put her in danger. What if he came back? But she insisted I stay. She told me she would be fine, that we could face this together.

As I tried to figure out what to do, I also had to make a difficult decision. I recently discovered that I was pregnant. I wasn’t sure if I was ready to become a mother, especially not with everything going on. I didn’t want him to find out, and I wasn’t sure if I could handle the situation. I was still thinking it over.

But today, I would take the first step to protect myself—and my sister. I was going to report him. I didn’t want him to hurt anyone else. No more hesitation, no more fear. I was ready to take control of my life.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

viotski −  when he left I asked her not to call as I wasn’t ready to talk to them yet The longer you wait the more in danger you are putting your sister in.

Haunting_Extension24 −  Girl please report him, listen to your sister and talk to your parents you need all the support that you can get at this time because clearly this little boy is dangerous and I would definitely support you if you wanted to get rid of the pregnancy because he will find some type of way to tie himself to you

and wanting to use a child to control you or even poisoning the child’s mind so that is another problem that you will be bringing into your life which you have to think about. Don’t be pressured into doing something that you do not want to do, take your time but do not take too long especially when it comes on to this pregnancy.

Please report him to the police, meet up with your parents and do what you have to do to build the relationship you have lost with these people so you can move on. The parts where you said he slapped you and grabbed your hair and locked you in the house, oh my God my heart broke.

AnemosMaximus −  OP. As a father, call your parents now. Get an a**rtion immediately. Don’t hesitate, or he will be part of your life for 18 years plus. If my daughter had this guy hitting her…..? They wouldn’t be able to find his body. Protect your family call police immediately and start the paper trail now.

ConcertinaTerpsichor −  Please terminate this pregnancy. I think you are underestimating the danger you are in. You do not want to be tied to this man forever.

helendestroy −  If he gets hold of you, he’ll kill you.

Virgogirl1984 −  OP DO NOT let this go!!! Report him ASAP!!! And under no circumstances let him find out about the baby.

Neacha −  Please follow through with reporting him and getting a restraining order, he is very dangerous.

asha0369 −  Dear girl, please report him to the police, and speak to your parents as well. You don’t need to have this monster in your life. Keep yourself and your sister safe.

Also keep in mind, you did not mess up your life. Sometimes s**t happens and we just have to go with the flow. You are very brave for getting through this, and very lucky that you have a sister who’s your rock.

LionFyre13G −  This man will absolutely kill you if you go back to him. If your partner strangles you the chance of them killing you goes up significantly. File a restraining order against him for sure