What to do with relationship like this?

A Redditor (24M) is facing uncertainty in his relationship with his girlfriend (22F) of over a year. Despite his efforts to maintain a stable future and prioritize her, she’s expressed dissatisfaction with aspects of their relationship, like his job and lack of social time.

After a conversation where she shared that she doesn’t see him as her “perfect guy” and feels like a low priority, the Redditor is questioning whether to continue the relationship. Read the full story below for more on his dilemma.

‘ What to do with relationship like this?’

Me (M 24) and Gf ( F 22) are in relationship for year and half. Yesterday we talked and she told me that she doesnt see me as her perfect guy, doesnt like many of things about me like my job (i work hard, almost every second weekend because I want to be financial stable and pay for everything),

doesnt like that I dont have time to socialize with my friends, doesnt feel like priority to me. She feels that for 5 months. Truth is that we are in some kind of LDR, seeing eachother every week almost.

I am the one who goes to her, even if I have very demanding schedule, I make room for her. I organised every single vacation and trip. She didnt organised anything.

I wanted to break up yesterday with her, but she said please, I dont know if I want to break up, I need time, I love you etc. I said I will give her time but It doesnt make sense to be with person who doesnt appreciate me.. Can you give me advice on this?

Here’s what the community had to contribute:

Some_Mushroom665 −  It sounds like that the relationship has turned toxic and maybe she is saying things to mess with your mind so you are confused of where you stand with her.

Maybe just tell her how her actions and making you feel. Explain the things she is saying are confusing and hurtful and if she can’t seem validate your feeling and give an explanation it maybe time to take charge and do what’s best for yourself 🙂

tb0904 −  She doesn’t get choice if you want to break up. This relationship sounds very over. She doesn’t even like you.

Not-a-Kitten −  You don’t need her permission or buy-in to break up. Just tell her you are going in a new direction. Adios and best wishes!

fiery_valkyrie −  Break up and find someone who actually likes you. Sounds like you are a sensible and thoughtful guy. You’ll find someone.

TheLastWord63 −  She doesn’t sound like she loves you. She sounds like she’s just using you as a placeholder. You know, you were right to break up with her. I don’t know why you changed your mind.

Affectionate_Lovee −  a healthy relationship should feel balanced, supportive, and like a partnership. If you’re the only one driving it forward, it’s worth asking if this is the love and appreciation you deserve. 💛

OkAtmosphere1705 −  I am sure she lives with you and you pay the rent. Is it ?

TeachPotential9523 −  Break up with her and I think you know you that’s what you need to do I would never stay with someone that is unhappy with everything about me she’s looking for a boyfriend that likes to party have a good time she won’t ever appreciate what you do in the hard work you do

thybastardseed −  You clearly know what you want , you want to breakup so be consistent with it. Stop putting other people’s needs and emotions before YOUR own, or you will never be happy. I can promise that, coming from someone who has wasted so much of their life on stupid people.

Move on and get your needs in order, once you figure that out what you deserve and don’t deserve you will attract the right person. It really is that simple.

And as a confirming party, yes , this person doesn’t appreciate you, but also in your future relationship make sure you BOTH aren’t seeking unequal validation and constant appreciation. You need to have that on your own going in or you will again be very unhappy.

macbase10 −  Sounds like this person is in the way of you finding your life partner. Throw them to the curb.

What do you think is the best course of action in this kind of situation? Is it worth continuing a relationship when the effort feels one-sided? Share your advice and thoughts below!