(32/M) My (27/F) wife receives money from someone else…?

A Reddit user, 32M, discovered that while working overseas to provide for his family, his 27F wife has been receiving money from a man she met online. The situation is further complicated by her taking unannounced trips with their daughter and dismissing his concerns, claiming the man is “just a friend.”

Struggling with feelings of betrayal and confusion, the user seeks advice on whether this behavior crosses a line and how to address these growing trust issues. Read the full story below.

‘ (32/M) My (27/F) wife receives money from someone else…?’

While working overseas to provide for my family—covering my wife’s needs, our daughter’s school fees, the house mortgage, and other expenses—I recently discovered something unsettling. A man, whom my wife met online (possibly on Facebook or a dating app), has been sending her money. I’ve never met him, nor has she introduced us, and to my knowledge, they’ve only known each other for a short time.

What makes this even harder is that my wife recently went on vacation with our daughter without telling me where they were going. This has now happened three times, and I feel like trust is slipping away in our marriage. When I confronted her about the money and these mysterious trips, she brushed it off, insisting the man is “just a friend.”

But here’s the thing—who sends money to a married woman they barely know without expecting anything in return? Am I overreacting, or is this a clear breach of trust? I don’t want to jump to conclusions, but I also can’t ignore the red flags. What would you do in my situation? Is this behavior considered cheating, or am I being too sensitive? I could really use some perspective on this.

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

triple-tomato −  Bro you already know the answer. She is cheating on you.

Katie-MacDonut −  Wait, wait, I’m confused. Your wife *took your child somewhere and refused to tell you where* and your primary concern is that some rando is dropping cash?

I mean yeah, she’s probably cheating on you, but that’s the least of your problems, OP. You can’t trust her to even be forthcoming about something and basic and important as the location of your f**king kid. You have big big problems, and whose junk your girl is riding in your absence kind of isn’t one of the big ones.

perthguy999 −  Mate, you seem completely passive about all this? What gives?

RamKay33 −  Your wife… met someone on a… dating app??

Historical-Pie-5052 −  C’mon, Bro. The forest is engulfed in flames and you’re just talking about smelling smoke. This guy’s a sugar daddy of some kind. Either she’s traveling to see him or she’s sending him nude pics for money.

NYCStoryteller −  Yes, she’s cheating. There’s no scenario where she goes on a vacation to see some “friend” who sends her money without telling you and there’s no strings attached, nothing s**ual.

mtl_jim2 −  No one sends money without getting something in return

Crazy-Place1680 −  You know what is happening

lofi_drone −  Dude….its done. She took your daughter (is she yours?) To a secret location..bro..she is cheating and teaching the kid to call him dad. 23 skidoo now!

MoomahTheQueen −  Your marriage is over. Start the formal divorce

Is this situation a clear breach of trust, or could it be an innocent misunderstanding? How would you approach such red flags in a marriage, especially when physical distance adds to the complexity? Share your thoughts below and help this Redditor find clarity in a difficult time.