My M23 girlfriend F21 doesn’t like my name and has said that guys with this name are not good people. Is this fair to be upset about?
A Reddit user shared their confusion after their girlfriend revealed she has a negative perception of men with his name, associating it with negative traits like laziness and drug use. While she avoids calling him by his name, he feels hurt by her comment, seeing it as potentially disrespectful and a red flag. The Redditor wonders if he’s overreacting or if her remark is genuinely inappropriate. Read the full story below to see how this situation unfolded.
‘ My M23 girlfriend F21 doesn’t like my name and has said that guys with this name are not good people. Is this fair to be upset about?’
My 23m girlfriend 21f recently stated that she has a negative perception of people with my name. Specifically, guys with my name are assholes, who take drugs and/or are lazy.
In hindsight, she never uses my name when talking to me. I can’t help but feel this is kind of a big deal as it is the only name I have and it’s not going to change any time soon. I also think it might be a bit of a red flag on her part to say such a thing to me.
Like, I can’t imagine ever telling a significant other that their namesake is bitchy or sleeps around. Am I being overly sensitive or is that a weird thing to say? I definitely could be wrong with this and I hope I am as I really like her. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks
Take a look at the comments from fellow users:
Smoldogsrbest − Is your name Josh? I feel like it’s Josh. No, for real now. She’s being ridiculous and yes this is a red flag.
UnlikelyStudy − I’m going to be honest with you here Kyle, you’re going to have to get used to using your middle name or she needs to get over her weird name association.
Basilsainttsadface − Definitely not overly sensitive. If she’s so shallow to assume all guys with that name are the same, I’d move on. Quickly.
Dragonshatetacos − Don’t stick your d**k in crazy–and she *is* crazy.
overthinking2muchhh − that sounds like a her problem & she’s gonna need to get over it. if it truly bothers you , tell her you have a name & for her to use it. she’s a grown ass adult acting childish. not overreacting imo.
Aintmuchtill-UtRY1 − Yeah I think you have a point. Everyone’s name is important to them. You might be named after someone in the family or it may have just been a special name for your parents to choose. It is not reasonable to hate your name like she does. Instead, knowing you should change her perception of the name to a good one. That being said, she is also only 21, which may not be mature enough to express ideas and opinions well.
Horuajones − Just tell her you should break up as your name is too traumatising for her. Then move on. She sounds very immature. And entitled.
cressidacole − Depends – are you a lazy a**hole that abuses drugs?
Traditional-Ad2319 − Of course she’s being ridiculous it’s your name. Does she expect you to change your name? What is her reason for telling you she doesn’t like your name it’s not like you can do anything about it. Huge red flag. I would definitely be finding another girlfriend.
Wide_Software_2949 − This is wild, also rude? “She never uses my name when talking to me” – I’m sorry, WHAT? You should think of your loved one when hearing their name, not other people who also have that name.
Do you think the girlfriend’s comment about his name is harmless banter, or does it show a lack of sensitivity? How would you handle a situation where your partner made an offhand remark that felt personal? Share your thoughts below and let us know how you’d approach this delicate dynamic!