AITA for telling my sister her wedding is going to be a disaster if she doesn’t change her plans?

A Reddit user shared their concerns about their sister’s upcoming destination wedding, which has caused tension within their family. The wedding requires significant travel expenses, making it difficult for many relatives to attend, and the user feels their sister isn’t considering the impact on others.

After expressing their worries, the sister accused them of ruining her happiness, and now other family members are siding against the user. To find out more about the situation and how others have responded, read the full story below…

‘ AITA for telling my sister her wedding is going to be a disaster if she doesn’t change her plans?’

So I (27M) have a sister (30F) who is getting married in a few months, and honestly, I’m starting to get really worried about how everything is shaping up. I love my sister, but she’s making some choices that I think could cause a lot of problems.

For context, she’s decided to have a destination wedding in a country where none of us live. The wedding is super far away, and she made all the decisions without really asking for anyone’s input.

We only found out about it a few months ago, and now everyone’s scrambling to figure out how to make the trip work. She also wants everyone to cover their own travel costs, which is a huge ask, especially with the venue being in such a remote place.

Some of our older relatives or people with health issues just won’t be able to get there at all, and that’s stressing everyone out. On top of that, the dress she picked is insanely expensive, and now she’s asking everyone in the wedding party to wear matching outfits from a designer brand that no one can afford.

It feels like she’s not really considering how this is impacting us. Every time I try to talk to her about it, she brushes me off and says it’s her day and we all just need to support her no matter what.

I tried to approach her calmly, saying I’m just trying to help and that some of these choices might turn the wedding into a nightmare for everyone, not a celebration. She got really defensive and said I was ruining her happiness.

Now, I’m getting a lot of messages from family saying I’m being selfish and need to just get over it. So AITA for telling my sister that if she doesn’t change some of these plans, her wedding is going to be a disaster?

Check out how the community responded:

Weak_Environment7550 −  You’re right to be concerned, but it’s clear she isn’t open to hearing anything other than what she wants to hear. I think you’ve tried your best to express your concerns

CJCreggsGoldfish −  You tried, she’s not receptive, let the chips fall where they may. I know you’re just trying to spare her heartache, but you’ve done your part. More than this makes you controlling and pushy. She’s an adult.

All you can control is your own choices – only go along with her nonsense if you can easily afford it. You are under no obligation to impoverish yourself to pay for travel and clothing you can’t really manage without hardship. It’s fine for her to want a certain aesthetic or w/e for her wedding, but it’s unreasonable to expect others to beggar themselves on her behalf.

Efficient-Reading-10 −  NTA Yes, she can decide to do stupid stuff.  You can also let her know that you hope her wedding goes well, and you look forward to seeing the photos because you will not be there. As a sibling you are the perfect person to talk to her, once, about the cost.  After that you should step away.

Imaginary-Yak-6487 −  NTA & it sounds like she does not want anyone to come. I wouldn’t go.

WinEquivalent4069 −  Long ago I read on an etiquette blog that destination weddings need at least 1 year of notification for guests so they can raise the funds, get passports or make whatever arrangements are necessary in order to attend.

Skipping on a wedding, especially a destination wedding for financial reasons is perfectly acceptable. Definitely NTA.

ER_Support_Plant17 −  NTA but just honestly tell her you can’t afford the travel and the cost of the suit required. Everyone else needs to make their choices for themselves. If this turns into a micro-wedding hey at least she got her designer dress in a remote location.

HighwayManBS −  NTA – weddings make people so entitled. She’s spending lots of money and demanding others do the same. It might “her day” but she’s not entitled to people’s money.

Daphne_Brown −  She’s immature. I’d ditch and just be sure to attend her third wedding because that one might last.

AtomicFox84 −  Another fake ai post. New account and doesnt comment. People really need to look at profiles at least. As soon as i saw a classic line of family saying op is selfish, i def knew it was fake. Lately the bot stories have been on a wedding binge.

RugbyKats −  Call everyone, and present a united front. Your bridezilla sister needs an intervention.