I don’t know why i’m jealous of his ex?

A young woman finds herself consumed by jealousy toward her boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend, despite knowing their relationship is over. Her insecurities are threatening her happiness, and she’s searching for ways to break free from this toxic cycle. Read her story below.

‘ I don’t know why i’m jealous of his ex?’

I don’t know. Yes, she is very beautiful. Her face fits my country’s beauty standard 200%, she is tall, really good body (hourglass body but with lean limbs), she is popular and an up and coming actress for television drama, and my boyfriend told me she is kind and sweet. They had a 4 years relationship. She was his first.

But I know for a fact they won’t get back together since they have different value (esp regarding wanting kids or not) and they are not in contact anymore ever since his ex’s boyfriend start invading my bf’s privacy. While i’m not as beautiful, i don’t think i’m bad looking, and i have my own achievements too.

My boyfriend and i have a lot in common too, unlike her. But I can’t stop stalking her on social media, i tried blocking her but i can’t stop block-unblock. I tried to find her weakness but she seems to be just beautiful, smart, and kind.

I am afraid i’ll be compared by his friends and family….in which already happened by his family since his family is religious, i’m a dancer and they dislike it (thinking i’m an unmodest person), meanwhile his ex dresses pretty modestly.

My boyfriend always reassures me and compliments me a lot, he never did things that’ll make me worry. I don’t want to ruin my current relationship because of my o**ession. What other things to do other than blocking…

See what others had to share with OP:

pzelenovic −  You’re competing against your imagination and that obstacle seems insurmountable. In reality, she doesn’t care about you, he doesn’t care about her, his family care about you and him and what your relationship is going to work like.

Though you may not be modest according to his family standards, you’re obviously the person he chose to be with and that’s the only confirmation that you’ve got what it takes.

You can work with that, or choose to give way to your fears which make your imaginary obstacles as much bigger than they actually are. Acknowledge that this is a fear, and not reality, and keep walking bravely forward. You’ve got what it takes! 🙂

bobolinkdirectly −  Obsessing over your boyfriend’s ex is messing with your head and will only make things worse for you. It doesn’t matter how beautiful or accomplished she is. Your bf is with you now and he’s reassured you that he’s not interested in going back to her.

Constantly comparing yourself to her or stalking her on social media is just feeding your insecurities. You’re letting someone who isn’t even a part of your life control your emotions, and that’s unhealthy. You need to cut the ties with her mentally, stop the comparison, and focus on building your own confidence.

Overcoming insecurities and comparison is no easy feat, especially when it involves someone’s past relationships. What advice would you offer her to help rebuild her self-esteem and focus on the present relationship? Share your insights in the comments below!