My relationship is k**ling me?

A Redditor shares their struggle with a two-year relationship that has become increasingly toxic. After moving in together, things have worsened, with their girlfriend calling them hurtful names and dismissing their feelings.

Now, feeling emotionally drained, they are considering breaking up but are hesitant due to upcoming exams and the stress of dealing with the aftermath. Read the full story below for advice on handling this difficult decision.

‘ My relationship is k**ling me?’

I need an advice. I (22M) are in 2 year long relationship with my GF (22F). And I cannot take all of this anymore, but I feel like I cannot break up right now. When we did not lived together, it was fine. But then after year of relationship my roommate dropped out of school and so my GF moved in.

The first month were terrible. We argued about everything but I thought that we only need to get used to living. And we kinda did. But now I feel like she is just straight up mean to me. She call me names, she use slusrs for me. And when I say something she says that she is only joking.

But when I get mad and call her back the same slur that she used for me then she starts crying and I have to apologize. I told her many times that I am not comfortable with it but she does not stop. So I decided that we need to break up. However there is a catch. I am taking graduating exeam from college at next month.

And I just feel like I cannot do it now. I need to focus on studying and dealing with all the aftermath and finding new roomate since I cannot cover the rent myself. But also I feel like being in this is k**ling me.

TLDR: I want to break up with my girlfriend since the relationship is k**ling me but I have so many important things that I do not want to deal with aftermath now.

Here’s how people reacted to the post:

sweadle −  That sounds like an a**sive relationship. Unfortunately, when it comes to living with girlfriends and boyfriends, it makes it complicated to end things. I suspect if you do it now, you will suddenly have more time and energy for studying and taking care of things than you would if you just tried to ignore her and tried to study.

But do you know for sure she would move out? Is she on the lease? Make sure you have a plan because if she’s on the lease, she can just not leave. She may also need time to find somewhere to go.

Perfect_Search_2098 −  The answer its on the question would you finish exams and then break up with her? When you living together its not like just sending a text and brea up and blocking etc. It is more serious with or without the exam she wont leave you right away.

Its a process i would suggest talking to her about you breaking up and whats the plan? Do you feel you could end the relationship and make it a process together or you think she would act in a certain way that will block your intention of breaking up?

It can be tough to navigate a relationship that feels emotionally draining, especially with other life stressors like exams and living situations.

Do you think it’s better to focus on personal well-being and handle the breakup now, or should the user wait until after their exams to avoid adding extra stress? How would you handle such a situation? Share your thoughts below!