I (F35) think my bf (M40) is cheating. How do I mentally prepare for the truth so it doesn’t hurt? How do I detach?
A Reddit user shares their fears of being cheated on by their boyfriend of three years, and the emotional struggle they face in trying to detach and prepare themselves for the truth.
With no family or friends to turn to, they are left wondering how to emotionally cope with the situation. Read the story below to learn more about their journey and challenges.
‘ I (F35) think my bf (M40) is cheating. How do I mentally prepare for the truth so it doesn’t hurt? How do I detach? ‘
My (F35) boyfriend (M40) of 3 years I believe is cheating. All the signs are there but i’m too scared to ask the question and I keep ignoring it. I no longer have family or friends (unrelated to him) so I need advice, how do I mentally start detaching so I’m prepared.
I want to be in a good position so I can handle the truth but right now he’s my everything and I have no support system without him. How do I become independent? I just want to stop loving him so it won’t hurt.
He doesn’t treat me well but as I said, he’s all I have and i love him. I don’t know who I am without him. TL;DR I think my boyfriend is cheating, how do I prepare myself for the truth and how do I become independent from him so it hurts less?
Here’s what Redditors had to say:
WeirdAl777 − If you think someone is cheating, you should leave. That’s not how good relationships work.
arewethreyet727 − Think of your worth. You say he isn’t treating you well and now you suspect cheating. Girl, think of how strong you really are, you deserve to be happy. Try therapy. You need to spend time with yourself and make yourself priorty.
IntroductionSad9653 − There’s no mentally preparing you can prepare all you want but nothing can prepare you for the punch in the face that cheating is, it hurts only having your heart broken before and utilizing what you did before.
If he is cheating I wish you luck and tbh I’d give em a hey if you tell me we can work through this I need the truth or whatever blah blah then if he did just leave if you want I mean he broke your trust and promise to be exclusive married or not it’s an unwritten rule unless talked about other wise to be exclusive to eachother, the way I put it what’s a c**ater gonna do call you l**r lmao
Fit-Imagine-1969 − It’s tricky, but, “I’m into you” usually gets the job done.
SeeeVeee − Can you be more specific? Why do you think he’s cheating?
qwertyvm − You have had 32 years of your life without him. He is not your everything. You are your everything. Trust yourself enough to know you deserve to be loved faithfully and treated with respect.
Do you think the Reddit user’s struggle to detach from a toxic relationship is something many can relate to? How would you cope with a similar situation, especially if you had no support system? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below!