Person i’ve been seeing (F24) wants to take a break after two month situationship (M25) How do I move forward?
A man (M25) has been seeing a girl (F24) for two months, and things have been going well, with frequent communication and enjoyable dates. However, recently, she suggested taking a break for 2-3 weeks due to their busy schedules and her need for time to reflect on the relationship.
She explained that she wants to assess whether she sees a serious future with him, especially given her recent family struggles. He’s conflicted because he likes her and wants to be with her, but the idea of a break makes him feel unimportant, leading him to wonder if he should call it off. read the original story below…
‘ Person i’ve been seeing (F24) wants to take a break after two month situationship (M25) How do I move forward? ‘
I (M25) and this girl (F24) have been seeing each other for about 2 months, we have been having a great time together and every time we go out it’s always great. We have talked everyday and even recently facetimed a good amount so it seemed like things were going well.
That was until a few days ago, we were talking how we were going to be unable to see each for the next 2-3 weeks since we’ll be out of town, busy with work and also spending time with family for the holidays.
I said this at we would still be able to talk to each other during this of course, and thats when she suggested that we take a break during that time. She said that not only does she want to take this break because of we won’t be able to see each other, and that she doesn’t want to leave me hanging for days on end because she’ll be too busy.
But also she said she wants time look at our relationship and see if she wants to go in a serious direction with our relationship. She has had a difficult time with her family recently, so she said she’s very selective on who she brings in her life.
Honestly, i’m very conflicted since I really like her and I do want to be with her. But this time apart has made me wonder if it’s worth being a part of this break, since I don’t really like the idea. It makes me feel like i’m not important to her and i’ve been. contemplating calling it off.
I would like some advice on how to move forward with this, or whether this is a good idea and what to do.
See what others had to share with OP:
N0DuckingWay − TBH I read it as she is giving this serious thought and this is just what she thinks she needs for the moment. Personally, if you haven’t already told her that you’re looking for something serious with her, tell her, and then give her the time to make her decision.
GenerAsianX1992 − Take a break and date someone else.
Lexicon-Jester − Ask her what this break means exactly. Potentially sleep with others? Decide from there. You could also sleep around and see how it goes.
BZP625 − I don’t understand “being a part of this break.” Do you mean ending the relationship when you say “calling it off?” It seems you have no choice to taking the break. The question is whether you will want to get back together when the break is over.
And she may not want to get back together when the break is over. To me, a break is a breakup, with a possibility of getting back together. So, why not enjoy your travel and holidays while assuming that it could be over. Then see how you feel.
It’s a good opportunity to see how you really feel about her. If her star starts to fade for you, or you meet someone else, then end it later. BTW, my sense is that most situationships end after 2 to 4 months.
That’s when the NRE and novelty wear off, you see the early red flags, and you’ve had enough time to see if this partner is in the ballpark of relationship possibility. So, it’s a good time to take a break and think it through (for both of you).
It sounds like she’s going through a lot emotionally and needs space to reflect. A break could be an opportunity for both of you to gain clarity. Trust your instincts, but also consider discussing your feelings with her before making any decisions. What do you think? Share your thoughts below!