Should I End My Relationship?
A 23-year-old woman has been in a relationship with her boyfriend for five years, but recent changes in his behavior are making her question their future. He’s broken her trust multiple times, and after meeting new friends, he seems like a different person.
Despite saving for a future together, he hasn’t contributed financially, leaving her feeling like she’s the only one working towards their goals. She’s wondering if she’s holding on to a relationship that isn’t healthy or if it’s worth giving more time to. read the original story below…
‘Should I End My Relationship?’
I’m 23, and I’ve been with my boyfriend (also 23) for five years. I’m deeply in love with him, but over the years, there have been moments where he’s broken my trust, lied to me, and recently, he’s been acting differently after meeting some new friends. It’s like he’s a completely different person now, and it’s been hard for me to adjust.
For the past three years, I’ve been saving money so we can eventually move in together. But he hasn’t saved anything at all, and it’s starting to make me feel like I’m carrying the weight of our future on my own.
I’ve talked to him about these changes that need to happen, but now I’m wondering if it’s worth it. Should I stay in a relationship hoping that he will eventually treat me better, or am I just wasting my time?
I love him, but I can’t help but feel uncertain about where this relationship is going. Am I holding on to something that isn’t healthy for me, or should I give it more time to work things out?
Here’s what Redditors had to say:
Intrepid_Repair_7678 −  Someone who lies to you and breaks ur trust isn’t someone you should be in a relationship with. If this is something that has happened several times he won’t change. Cut ur losses OP. Ur still young
Elegant_Pop1105 −  Yes, you should leave him. If you’re hoping he’ll change, you are wasting your time. You can be with someone who treats you the way you like from the day one.
EquivalentTimely58 −  I would probably have a serious discussion if he doesn’t change leave him if nothing really changes
chickenfriedricee69 −  You’re wasting your time buddy, imagine if a friend came to you with this exact scenario, what advice would you give them? Sometimes it helps to step back from the situation and imagine it in someone else’s shoes
Careless-Bread-8393 −  Get out now.. Do not move in together. I just got out of a relationship that I thought the same in.. That we would make it, that he would change (and he was putting in far more effort than your guy), that we could work through our stuff together.. He left.
You need to find someone that doesn’t make you question your worth. He’s not going to stay – and if he does, what kind of life is that? Is it what you really want? Doesn’t sound like it. We cannot stay with people for the potential we see in them. We have to accept them for who they are in the present moment.
Short-Sprinkles6517 −  Please break up with him seems like a placeholder relationship where you’re giving your all and he’s waiting to see what else is out there. Use your money to get your own place and move on
ladyredcyn −  When people tell you who they are…ask more questions. When they show you who they are? Believe them. He has broken your trust and has disregarded just about everything you were counting on about him. Ask yourself why someone who is treating you the way he has been…is the best you think you can do.
venusolace −  leave bc deep down you want to
Sufficient_Canadian −  You can’t change him. Don’t spend your time and energy on someone who isn’t reciprocating.
It’s tough when you feel like you’re carrying the weight of a relationship on your own. Have you ever been in a situation where you had to decide if a relationship was worth saving? Share your thoughts below!