Wbita if I don’t tell my wife that her best friend tried to kiss me?

A Reddit user is grappling with a difficult situation involving his wife’s best friend, L. After a night of drinking, L became very drunk and unexpectedly kissed the user, which he immediately rejected. L apologized, and after some emotional conversation, he ensured she got home safely.

Since then, L has begged him not to tell his wife, claiming it was a mistake caused by her drunken state. The user is now torn between keeping the secret to preserve his wife’s friendship with L or being honest with his wife and risking her trust. Read the full story below to learn more about this complicated situation and the user’s internal struggle.

‘ Wbita if I don’t tell my wife that her best friend tried to kiss me?’

The article has the next update at the end.

I have been married to my wife for 2 years, she and her best friend has been friends for more than 15 years, way before I met my wife or her and tbh I never saw or noticed ever that my wife’s friend has something something for me, her friend and I have been alone quite often and not once did she try to ‘make a move’, it has always been platonic.

Her friend I will call her L, for obvious reasons, L and I have been close, not that close but close enough to consider each other as friends, and I didn’t have a problem with it, neither did my wife.

L visits us almost every week or twice a month give or take, my wife doesn’t drink but I do and L does, so whenever she visits us we both drink and spend time together, sometimes she brings her boyfriends sometimes she comes alone.

But 2 days ago L showed up at our home drunk, she was so drunk she couldn’t even walk properly I still am surprised how she drove herself to our place, I asked her to come inside and she was crying, crying so damm much I thought something bad happened to her. I tried to comfort her but she just hugged me and kept saying that she wished she could find a man like me and all of her boyfriends dumped her and kept talking gibberish, I just stood still and let her vent.

But suddenly she started kissing me and I was shocked for a moment but I shook her off of me and asked her what that was about, she said she was sorry and I asked her to stay away, she kept crying and apologizing but I asked her to stay away. After alot of talking and her venting, I knew I can’t let her drive so I dropped her off and when my wife got back she asked me why’s L’s car here, I told her everything except kissing part.

Since then L has been texting me alot and giving me alot of explanation and begging me to not to tell my wife and she will not repeat the same mistake and she genuinely thinks it was a mistake or so I think, she keeps saying that if I do tell my wife she will lose her best friend, I haven’t replied to her yet and I didn’t tell my wife either.

But I am kinda scared right now, on one hand I don’t want my wife to lose her best if she really has made a genuine drunken mistake, cause she was really f**king drunk but on the other hand I shouldn’t be hiding stuff from my wife and if it ever comes out my wife will probably stop trusting me, I am kinda stuck here, I know she will be hurt but should I hurt her? It’s no affair or sleeping if she was under the influence and if we can bury it all up and move and and me and L stay away from each other going forward.

Update here: https://aita.pics/WhlRr

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

DogTheBotHunter −  It’s hilarious you think your wife won’t already be pissed that you kept it from her for a week. Keeping secrets about who kisses you from your partner isn’t a good idea.

Sebscreen −  YTA. You are not “making your wife lose her best friend”. You are simply giving your wife the necessary information she needs to make a choice she is entitled to make. Your wife is perfectly capable to weigh all the excuses you are making up for her friend (she was drunk, she apologised, she was lonely) herself and can choose to forgive her friend if she wants. She doesn’t need you to take that choice away from her. Also, save a copy of all her friend’s messages right now so she can’t spin it as you instigating the kiss.

Appropriate_Hair3573 −  Man, you’re dead.

Lost_Needleworker285 −  Yta. You should have told your wife everything.

Adventurous-travel1 −  Your wife should know and make her own choices. She’s an adult and doesn’t need you to decide for her. Her friend also needs to stop coming over so much and get her own life.

nylonvest −  I told her everything except kissing part. Really? Because if you told your wife that L showed up at your home extremely drunk, crying over her dating life, and that she made a pass at you and you rejected her – I think you’ve actually covered the important stuff.

If you mean that you told your wife that L came over drunk and you drove her home and that’s it, then you really didn’t tell her “everything except the kissing part.” You didn’t do anything wrong that night but L betrayed your wife as a friend, and she should know. You have no reason to protect L and every reason to side with your wife.

Alternative-Gur-6208 −  Sorry man you are in deep s**t. You have already hurt her. The trust would be unrepairable, she will worry that youve kept other things from her for the sake of not hurting. She will never trust you knowing you kept it this long, and she will feel betrayed by her friend and you. . Why wait this long it’s bad. 

Otherwise-External12 −  If the friend feels guilty and apologizes to your wife before you tell her, you might as well pack your bags because she’s going to throw you out.

JustMyThoughtNow −  Tell her. She will eventually find out. Secrets don’t stay secret. When she does find out, she will feel horribly betrayed by both of you.

nutty_cake −  Dude you already made the mistake by not telling the full story. I’m not sure why you thought that would be the best idea in the first place! Tell the story now ! ASAP let her know you were afraid and tell her but now her friend is blowing up your texts and it’s getting even worse awkward! you show her the texts.

Be open and honest, you may still have to atone for the delay in the information. But this is your forever partner the friend isn’t in your relationship you are !!! That friend crossed a line that is a trust boundary it’s your wife that gets to dictate how this goes down from now forward !