AITA for lashing out after nobody told me my dog died?

A Reddit user (presumably a teen) shares their frustration after coming home to find their dog had passed away two days earlier. They were unaware and only found out when they returned home, as their mom hadn’t told them. The user feels upset for not being informed and raised their voice at their mom,

which led to an argument. The user has autism and their GP suspects anger issues, which they acknowledge could have contributed to their reaction. The mom downplays the situation, saying the user was too busy with friends to be told. The user wonders if they were in the wrong for lashing out.

‘ AITA for lashing out after nobody told me my dog died?’

Around 2 days ago, my dog passed away (it was heart failure I think). He had always been sickly and stuff but he made it to 14 and peacefully passed away at 9amish. I was at school at the time, and nobody told me. I went to my friends house and would’ve come home if someone told me.

I came home from school today and noticed it was empty asf. I asked my mom why I felt weird and she said ” oh, yeah, I forgot to tell you, Bruno (my dog) passed away a few days ago. ” I was extremely taken aback as I didn’t know and i felt I should’ve known.

I asked her why she didn’t tell me and she said ” you were too busy at your friends. ” she could’ve called me and told me and I would’ve come home? I told her that I could’ve come home if she told me and I raised my voice.

to give better context, I have been diagnosed with autism and my GP suspects I may have anger issues. I began shouting at my mom that she should’ve told me and she said I was a b**t and I shouldn’t go to my friends. I didn’t know my dog was going to die? AITA?

See what others had to share with OP:

grannytwo −  I am so confused by this post. How old are you? Are you away at college and didn’t get a phone call about your dog? Do you live at home? If so, why did it take you 2 days to notice you dog was gone? There’s not enough information here to judge who the AH is. BTW being autistic is no excuse for boorish behavior.

michellllllllllle −  After reading the comments I have a feeling the story is close to this:
1. It’s the family dog, OP doesn’t live in the house any longer. Mother was the dog’s caretaker.
2. The dog passed away
3. The OP is a difficult kid throwing stuff around and shouting when stressed.
4. Mom dreaded telling them
5. OP didn’t ask how the dog was doing
6. OP came to the family house and mom gave her the news quite badly
7. OP proved mom right and had a meltdown. If this is the case, ESH.

StAlvis −  INFO: Bruno (my dog) passed away “a few days ago”. So you no longer live at this house?. I came home from school today. Like, come back from college, not come home from high school at the end of the day?

Smiling-Politely92 −  I’m going to say yta because at the end it seems you’re trying to explain away you yelling angrily because as you added “I have been diagnosed with autism and GP suspects I may have anger issues”. So even if you shouldn’t have yelled seems like you’re trying to make it okay still. There’s ways to let people know how you feel without yelling.

GrumpyRoad −  YTA – if it was your dog, you probably should have noticed it was not around the first day. I mean, if it’s your dog then you take it for walks, feed it, clean up after it, right? Sounds like your parents dog died and you took 3 days to notice it. They’re probably grieving and your lack of concern is offensive to the family.

mlc885 −  19 days ago you comment that this account is an alt so I am going to have to take your account with a grain of salt.. YTA It is a family dog if you somehow don’t realize that it is old or sick or has died for days

ultrahungry −  YTA, if you didn’t realize for a couple of days that your dog is not around any more. You lost it, and I am sure you don’t really tell the whole story, but you just feel sorry about yourself and blaming other people.

Edit: After reading some of your comments, you s**k big time, using your potential diagnosis as an excuse to yell at people and still didn’t realize that your dog was not around for a whole day.

Salty-Flamingo7052 −  ESH because it sounds like there’s more story between the lines. Were you the one who took care of the dog or was it your mom? Your mom sounds a little resentful which is why I suspect that. You went to your friend’s house but didn’t call to ask your mom to please take care of your dog?

No-Names-Left-Here −  So you went home for a few days before noticing you dog was not there? I mean, if it’s your dog shouldn’t you be the one taking care of it? YTA.

terraformingearth −  I get being upset about not knowing your dog died. I would let one of my children know. But, does it really make a difference? What would the point have been of coming home after he died? Have you considered the possibility that your parents were trying to avoid your anger, or have they always been callous?

The situation is clearly emotional, and it’s understandable that the user would feel hurt and upset. While their reaction may have been intense, their feelings are valid. What do you think? Share your thoughts below! Read the original story below…