[UPDATE] – AITAH for telling my girlfriend to “shut up” about her weight problem?

A couple of people requested an update, so here it is. Original post: https://aita.pics/hQFBp

‘ [UPDATE] – AITAH for telling my girlfriend to “shut up” about her weight problem?’

As mentioned in my comments, Lana had lied to my parents, saying that I said she was “too fat” and that she had been trying hard to lose weight, but that I was refusing to do anything to help her. All of that was of course untrue.

After reading all the comments (thanks for the all the advice) I decided that I wouldn’t be apologizing for what i said, but I was willing to discuss the issue with her, instead of immediately breaking up like some suggested – even though I know she really crossed a line by lying to my parents. I think some people were under the impression that I screamed at her, this wasn’t the case. I did snap, but when I said what I did I barely raised my voice. If I had screamed at her, I would apologize.

It got to yesterday evening and Lana had still not returned home. Realizing that I actually needed my car the following morning, I got my friend Mark to drive me to my parents house. I called Lana three times, but she didn’t answer. Instead I sent her a text, saying that I wanted to talk, and that I’d come by my parents place soon. Turns out this was a mistake.

When we arrived my car was nowhere to be seen and my mum said that Lana had left about 10 minutes ago. I called twice again and no answer. I was in the middle of texting her that if she didn’t return my car, I’d be calling the police, when I got a notification from my doorbell camera. She was back at home, and my car was back in the driveway. All was good, or so I thought.

Mark drove me back home, but when I tried to get back inside, Lana had put on the inner latch on the door, so I was locked out. After a few minutes of calling out to her to let me in, all I heard from her was “F**k off”. Now I was done. There would be no calm conversation, we were done.

Thankfully I was able to climb over the back fence (didn’t think I’d make it in the shape I’m in), and get in through the back door. Once inside I told her that she had until that evening to get out. At the time she didn’t even protest. She just packed a bag and a friend picked her up an hour later.

This morning she has tried calling multiple times. She’s now messaging that she’s sorry and wants to talk, but I’m not interested. I messaged her that I’ve packed all her stuff and she can get a friend to come and get it, or I’ll put it outside for her to pick up, but she won’t be getting in my house again.

Now I’ll be staying home until I can get the locks changed. I’ve got a financial agreement in place with her, so she’s got no claim on the house or any of my property, so this should be the end of it. Again, thanks for the advice.

Here’s what the community had to contribute:

Cybermagetx −  Wait she tried to lock you out of your own home? Yeah she can go away and your parent’s owes you an apology.

Buttered_Crumpet09 −  So she is someone who has a problem she won’t fix but will b**ch to you about, she’s a l**r, and she took your car and tried to lock you out of your home? I feel like it should be clear to anyone that the problem isn’t her weight but the fact that she’s clearly several violins and a cello short of a full orchestra. How are your parents reacting to all of this? Have they realised they backed the wrong (crazy) horse?

OceanBreeze_123 −  That the first thing she did when angry at you was to go manipulate your parents against you is disturbing.  That she is so skilled at lying that she was able to fully convince them, even after you talked to them, of her lies is disturbing.  OP your parents chose to believe her over you. BOTH parents. And with no proof, nothing. Thank god you’re done with her. But you need to have a *major* conversation with your parents. 

Agoraphobe961 −  NTA. Start telling people the correct narrative now or she is going to blast you to everyone else.

Oddly-Appeased −  I hope you tell your parents what has happened and that they owe you an apology for taking your now ex girlfriend’s side even when she lied to them, essentially stole your car and finally tried locking you out of your own house.

Crafty_Special_7052 −  So she went completely mental then. Basically stole your car and only returned it once you threatened to call the cops then tried to lock you out of your own house. SMH.

DivineTarot −  NTA. You just know the locked door was her trying to compel you to grovel or some crap. She was expecting you to fall on your knees and apologize until she forgave you, but you ended up having a spine and not putting up with her s**t. Good riddance to bad rubbish I say.

rocketmn69_ −  Mom and Dad will move her into your old room.

Trishiechiks −  NTA. She really locked you out of the house and thought you were just supposed to be okay with it? Nah, fam. She straight-up crossed multiple lines and then tried to gaslight you with that “sorry” text after the fact. You gave her chances to talk things out, but when she pulled that stunt with your car and the door latch, you were done and honestly, I get it. You deserve peace and respect, and she clearly wasn’t offering either. Get those locks changed and live your best life without the drama!

Judg3_Dr3dd −  NTA still. Steals your car, lies to your parents, dodges your messages, tries to lock you out of your own home? Nah bro, make sure you end it through and through. No coming back.