Update: AITA for breaking up with my fiancee for telling her best friend she was not engaged?

The man who broke off his engagement with his fiancée has provided an update. After meeting her to discuss their relationship, he discovered she had deleted all her messages with her male best friend but eventually handed over her phone.

While there was no evidence of physical cheating, the texts revealed she had been extensively badmouthing him, mocking his hobbies, and complaining about feeling “stuck” in their relationship. She also shared intimate details about their bedroom struggles, which stemmed from his grief over his father’s passing.

Despite her tearful apologies and explanations, he decided to end the relationship, reclaiming the engagement ring and asking her to delete his number. He arranged for her mother to collect her belongings and has since resolved to move on, blocking his own mother due to unrelated personal issues. read the original story below…

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‘ Update: AITA for breaking up with my fiancee for telling her best friend she was not engaged ?’

Hey guys, I just got home after talking to my (still) ex-fiancee, and since a lot of people asked for an update, here it is. But, I want to clarify a few things.
As commented on my original post, I pay for the house since I bought it before dating her and I asked her to move in, since it was close to her job.

I work from home since I’m in tech, but she had to go to work, that’s why I paid for her car, to help her commute (and honestly her salary is s**t). I was her partner, so I didn’t see any problem with that. I thought she was the one, despite everything, she is smart, funny, we had chemistry, but I felt betrayed.

To the update. We met at a coffee shop on the premise we would discuss how to save our relationship, at least, that’s what she thought. As soon as we sat down, I asked to see their messages. She got defensive immediately and told me she had deleted everything. I asked to see her phone anyway.

She started to cry, u**y cry, asking me to stop. At that point I had already decided I was not going to be part of the relationship anymore, but damn, I was curious. It took a good 20 minutes for her to hand me her phone, a lot of crying, even a waitress asking her if she was ok. So I read the messages.

There wasn’t any cheating like nudes being exchanged, them professing their love for each other, but what I read still stung. There was a lot of s**t talking about me. A LOT. Texts and texts of them saying how terrible of a person I was,

criticizing my hobbies (i like video games and pro wrestling) saying I wasn’t a real man because of them and stuff like that. But there where two topics that caught my eye. One where she had told him I was having trouble getting hard and that was frustrating for her.

And one where she was complaining about how she didn’t want to be “stuck” in our relationship. Yes, I was having problems in bed… because I was sad because my father had passed away (6 months ago) and the “stuck” thing, I remember telling her that when we got married,

IF SHE WANTED she could leave her job, and I would provide for both of us. I don’t know if she took this the wrong way, but I guess it was related to that. I honestly don’t know. By the time I gave her the phone back, she was already giving excuses on why she was saying those things to him,

how he was like a “therapist” for her, and then she asked me “don’t you complaing about me to your friends?” and I simply replied “no, I don’t”. She started crying again. I took a pretty deep breath and just said “just give me the ring back” (I didn’t had the ring with me, like some suggested).

She hesitated a bit, but gave it to me anyway. I stood up and asked her to delete my number and to not bother me anymore. I called her mom and asked her to pick up her daughter’s stuff at my place. Her mom is a good person, I’m just realizing I’m going to miss her as I write this.

She understood why I decided to end it, but she didn’t asked much, and to be honest, I’m glad she didn’t. As for my mom, I didn’t called her, I just blocked her for things unrelated to this post, I just realized she never had my back in anything, I was always trying to save an already failed mom-son relationship.

Before I leave, I just want to clarify. I was never against her having male friends, or any type of friends. People are going to cheat, friends or no friends. I remember my dad saying something to me when I was a teenager, he always said “opportunity makes the t**ef”, but I do not agree with that.

Anyway, since I have the next two weeks off work, I going to figure what to do with the wedding money, drink some booze, play games and watch Monday Night Raw later.. Peace.PS: sorry for any typos, but I fixed the title now.

Check out how the community responded:

DreTon9 −  James saying you’re not a real man because you play video games, while simultaneously creating his WoW character to match a girl who smacked him into the friendzone/backup plan option, is galactic levels of cuck fuelled irony.

OP you gave your time effort and money to someone who didn’t deserve it. It’s unfortunate but it can happen. Take some time to heal and become the best version of yourself. All the best

Tfuentexxx −  Dodged the ballistic missile! She did not want to be stuck to you, then why cry for a marriage she doesn’t want. Oh, but she is going to miss the wedding, that’s what she wanted.

Let’s see if her best friend/boyfriend can provide her with one. Oh man, there are four billion women in this planet, be patient yours will find her way to you, but not this POS.

xanif −  “don’t you complaing about me to your friends?” Things my fiancée will complain about me to her friends: he forgot to feed the cat until I reminded him even though I told him I wouldn’t be home to do it. Things my fiancée will not complain about me to her friends: He’s not a real man.

Still_Actuator_8316 −  Wow. Stay strong you made the right choice

Sfgiants420 −  Damn, that redditer who recommended handing over her phone was spot on. Way to dodge that bullet…your someone is out there!

Queenofthekuniverse −  Find yourself a nice girl who likes WWE and knows the difference between a piledriver and a suplex. Advice from a cranky old lady.

Advanced_Passage_492 −  In 23 years I have never s**t talked about my partner, not even to my sister and I would never ever talk about any bedroom issues we might have, except with him. OP, stay strong- you deserve so much better

CidTheHorrorKid −  you’ll feel much better now OP, I’m sorry you had to deal with a s**tty person like that but at least now you’re free to move on with your life without that toxicity 🙂 you’ll find someone better, trust!

AwkwardImpression72 −  Seeing someone’s true colors can always be very jarring. I am so sorry you had to go through this. There’s not much to say that can comfort you, but one thing for sure is, time will go by and it will become easier.

This might have just opened the door for your REAL PERSON. The one who has your back and can communicate like an adult, not like a child sneaking and talking behind your back. Good luck!!!!

swiftieerastour −  Good for you to get rid of her before getting married. You dodged a massive bullet

This update underscores the importance of mutual respect and boundaries in relationships. Sharing personal struggles with someone outside the relationship—especially in a way that undermines your partner—can deeply damage trust.

Did he handle the situation the best way, or was there room for reconciliation? What would you have done in his position? Share your thoughts below!

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