AITA for telling my parents the truth when my best friend asked me to lie.?
A Redditor shared a story about how her best friend blamed her for an empty Plan B box to hide the fact she wasn’t a virgin anymore. Despite feeling upset, the Redditor initially stayed quiet to protect her friend. However, when her friend’s parents threatened to reach out to her parents, the friend begged her to stick to the story.
When questioned by her own parents, the Redditor told the truth, prioritizing her relationship with them. Now, her best friend is upset, accusing her of betrayal. Was the Redditor wrong to refuse to lie again? Read the full story below.
‘ AITA for telling my parents the truth when my best friend asked me to lie.?’
I am 19 and my best friend is 18 both of us are living with our parents through college. Even though she’s an adult her parents routinely go through her belongings. On one occasion they found an empty box of plan b. She threw me under the bus and told her parents it was mine and I asked her to take it so my parents wouldn’t find it.
She didn’t want to tell them she had lost her virginity so she blamed it on me. I knew after this her parents would think differently of me because they’re very religious. I was a little upset but chose to keep my mouth shut. A few weeks later they found edibles in her car and she got grounded.
They went through her phone and found out she had a boyfriend. She at that point owned up to it and told them she had a boyfriend and lost her virginity. When they gave her phone back she texted me and said her parents might text mine.
She proceeded to beg me to stick to the story that it was mine if her parents asked about the plan b regardless of the fact her parents now know that she’s not a virgin anymore which was the whole reason she lied to them about the plan b.
When inevitably my parents got the text and asked me if I had my best friend take the plan b box, I told them the truth. I told them it wasn’t mine and she lied to her parents to cover the fact she wasn’t a virgin anymore. My parents gave my response to my best friend’s parents.
My best friend then blew up my phone saying I betrayed her and then didn’t talk to me for a week. I chose to tell them the truth because I didn’t want to jeopardize my relationship with my parents. AITA for not lying to my parents for her?
Check out how the community responded:
buttercupgrump − NTA. If she doesn’t want her parents to know she’s having s** or consuming edibles, she needs to be smarter about hiding the evidence. And if anyone’s betraying anyone else, it’s her. She’s the one betraying you by using you as a s**pegoat for her actions.
ObstinateTia − She’s got a lot of growing up to do. NTA.
EducationalFront574 − Nta she threw YOU under the bus. Not the other way around. She is not a friend. She lies and blames you so how can you call this a**hole a friend. Grow up.
Unable-Quarter2215 − NTA. She’s essentially using you as a get out of jail free card. And she’s ok with hurting your relationship with your parents as long as her relationship with hers is ok. She’s also hurting your reputation with her parents.
May not matter as much, but why would you want your parents to think badly of your best friend? To me, that hints that she might not see the friendship lasting forever.. Edit to add: To call it a betrayal suggests that she feels it’s your responsibility to take the consequences of her actions, which is absolutely not true.
lushhberry − **NTA.** You were put in a tough spot, but you chose honesty to protect your relationship with your parents. Your friend lied to cover up her actions, and asking you to lie again was unfair. You did the right thing by telling the truth.
Neenknits − NTA, but why did your parents make the effort to tell her parents anything? Her safety is clearly at stake. As a parent of adult kids,, in this situation, I would be volunteering directly to your friend to help her get the supplies, and keep them safe for her.
And make sure that her s** ed knowledge is complete. I seriously doubt it is. Neither you nor your friend is TA, but her parents certainly are, and your parents are a little.
lmchatterbox − NTA. You should not have lied to your parents to cover for her.
Thermicthermos − Info: Why did your parents feel the need to tell her parents?
Eriks-Rose − NTA. Her parents already knew she lied so you didn’t need to cover for her anymore. Also you needn’t lie to your parents about something do serious just because she got found out. you would think if her parents go through her things she’d learn to hide them better. It was unfair of you to ask you to lie to your parents and potentially damage your relationship with them. she doesn’t sound like a good friend
Real-Prune-7852 − NTA
Do you think the Redditor was justified in prioritizing honesty with her parents, or should she have supported her friend despite the situation? How would you handle a similar situation? Share your perspective below!