AITA For not letting my ex-roommate use my Amazon prime account?
A Reddit user shared a conflict with their ex-roommate over shared streaming accounts. After the roommate moved out, she used the Redditor’s Amazon Prime account without permission, even spending a gift card balance on rented movies.
When confronted, the roommate justified her actions by claiming the account was “shared,” despite asking the Redditor to log out of her Netflix and Max accounts. The Redditor took measures to remove her, sparking a heated argument. Now, the Redditor wonders if they overreacted. Read the full story below.
‘Â AITA For not letting my ex-roommate use my Amazon prime account?’
I (18f) and my roommate j (18f) were roommates for part of the first semester in college. At first everything was great, we’d eat together, talk all night, and go shopping. It all changed however when we rushed for a sorority, I got into the one she wanted and she got into a different one. From then on, she was a little more distant, but we were still good friends.
It’s worth to mention that on our shared tv, which I brought, I pay for Amazon prime, Disney plus, and peacock while her parents paid for Max and Netflix. I didn’t have a problem with this because I had money saved from a young age to do what I wanted with in college.
Later, I found out that she had to move out due to health reasons, and I know how that sounds, but it was actual health issues with certain foods that she needed to cook. I was a little upset because she told me a week before she moved out, but I understood and supported her.
The entire process she was out with her friends at her sorority and left me to pack up her stuff, which I did because I wanted to be nice. Fast forward a few weeks and she asks me to log out of her Netflix and max account, which I hadn’t used since she moved out and frankly forgot she had. So I did as soon as possible.
Later that same week, I look on my Amazon account and saw that a gift card I had on there was used up. When I looked into it, I saw that some movies were rented that I didn’t rent. I texted and asked if she had rented movies and she said that she did.
I asked her why she was on my Amazon account and she said that she didn’t have one and wanted it. I told her that it wasn’t fair that I had to get off the Netflix, but she can spend my money to watch a movie. She said it was different because Netflix was hers and Amazon was ours.
I said no and told her that if she didn’t get off of my account that I would find away to kick her off myself. She refused so I called my dad and we figured it out. She called me screaming that I ruined her movie night with her friends and I basically said pay for your own then. Was I wrong?
Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:
SushiGuacDNA − NTA. Let’s see. There’s a pattern. “I bought a THING. My friend wants me to give them the THING for free. I wouldn’t do it. Am I the a**hole?” No. The answer is no. The answer is always no.
Snoo_89230 − Well obviously you’re NTA based on this story, but are you sure there isn’t anything more that you’re leaving out? The only reason I ask is because it seems unusual for a person to be so blatantly ignorant and selfish with no justification whatsoever. Like, from her perspective, how would she justify her actions? How could she possibly rationalize this?
redditrealitytv − Given your age, let’s hope this is a lesson you only need to learn once; Don’t let a victim n**cissist take advantage of you. Ever. Never ever ever. It doesn’t matter if it was $20, or $2000, she took your money (your amazon gift card balance) without remourse. On top of that, she accosted you for cutting off her access to YOUR account.. Absolutely NTA.
mdthomas − Later that same week, I look on my Amazon account and saw that a gift card I had on there was used up. When I looked into it, I saw that some movies were rented that I didn’t rent.. This is theft or fraud.. NTA
shelly_seafunk − NTA. Obviously. Come on, she rented movies with your money and tries to make you feel bad about telling her to stop. She‘s the bad guy. You‘re good.
CivilAsAnOrang − NTA. No you were not wrong for not letting her steal money from you again. I guess I think you should focus on why you packed her stuff for her and were ok with her stealing money from your gift card? I think you need to get better at defending yourself from bullies and leeches.
rexmaster2 − How can you possibly be asking if you are in the wrong here? The only thing you could’ve possibly done wrong was to not change the password the momentnshe she asked you to log out of her accounts. Plus she is worse for spending YOUR money for HER movies.
Gullible-Funny1450 − 100% Not The A**hole
Briiiiiiyonce − NTA. She demanded that you log out of her own stuff while she didn’t do the right thing by logging out of your Amazon. She knew what she was doing. I’d block her honestly. She isn’t company worth having.
TherapySpider − Verdict: NTA (Not the A**hole). You were generous to share access to streaming services when you lived together, but her entitlement to continue using your account after moving out—and spending your money—is unreasonable. Her claim that Amazon was “ours” doesn’t hold water since you were the one paying for it. Calling you to scream about ruining her movie night was immature and entirely out of line.
Was the Redditor justified in removing her ex-roommate from her Amazon account, or should she have handled the situation differently? How would you deal with someone using your account without permission? Share your thoughts below!