AITA for refusing to sleep in pajamas when sharing a hotel room with my BIL?

A Reddit user (25M) shares a clash with his brother-in-law during a bachelor party weekend. The issue? Their differing expectations about sleepwear while sharing a hotel room. Tensions rose over what’s appropriate for shared sleeping arrangements. Read the story below.

‘ AITA for refusing to sleep in pajamas when sharing a hotel room with my BIL?’

This past weekend I (25m) was invited to my wife’s cousin’s bachelor party. We split off into hotel rooms of two and since I didn’t know a ton of people there I roomed with my wife’s brother. He’s a couple years older than me, and we’ve gone to the gym together and whatnot but have never been amazing friends.

The first night there was a decent amount of drinking. I noticed when he got into bed that he wore a sweatshirt and sweatpants. I ended up wearing one of those tank top undershirts and my underwear. I don’t think he noticed until the next morning when I took off the covers, and he asked if I had anything else to sleep in.

I told him I really only brought jeans but I’d be happy to keep them by the bed and not sit around and talk to him like that tomorrow. We had some free time during the day and then had a chiller dinner the second night.

When it came time to get to bed he pulled out some pajama pants and a cheap long sleeve shirt and said he brought them for me. I told him I’d wear the pajama pants if it was important to him but I wouldn’t wear the shirt. He said it was awkward and admittedly my shirt is one of those tight undershirts.

But idk why that matters to him. I ended up getting annoyed and not even wearing the pants to sleep and he said that I wasn’t being a good temporary roommate, arguing he was doing a good deed by rooming with me and not one of the people he’s closer to. AITA?

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

Crafter_2307 −  NTA. I don’t know what’s going on, but you weren’t sleeping nude. I’ve worn much less sharing rooms with friends of both genders.. Did BIL say why it bugged so much?

urgasmic −  INFO are you sharing a bed?

Silly-Letters −  It sounds like he likely finds you attractive. My best guess. I mean if you were strutting around in whitey tighties, yeah I’d be weirded out too. If you’re in bed, and not just laying on top the blanket with your leg spread open. I don’t see an issue. Are they from a different country? Certain cultures may deem that inappropriate 🤷🏻‍♂️

Wise_Yesterday4061 −  This whole time I thought it was a girl who typed this then realized it’s a guy. Wtf is his problem

lydocia −  Not sure what his issue is, maybe he found you attractive?

Fitzhappening −  NTA but this wouldn’t be my hill to die on. Everyone has different boundaries of what they are comfortable with. If I was rooming with someone and they said that me sleeping in my bra and underwear made them uncomfortable then I would just put on pajamas. To me there is just little to gain by taking a stand here.

Comprehensive-War743 −  Were you sharing the bed? That’s an important point.

EarthquakeBass −  Well he clearly has hang ups about seeing another guy a little “exposed”. Idk the whole situation sounds weird. Just doing separate rooms would have been easier. I wouldn’t say you’re the a**hole but it was a nice gesture of him in a way to at least contribute a solution for the problem instead of just telling you off or something.

jme518 −  I kinda got the vibe you got out of bed and were walking around having convos in tighty whiteys lol. Put some clothes on. Nobody sucks here though

unusable1430 −  If you’re not sharing the bed, boxers and a tank top are fine.

Do you think the Redditor is justified in his choice of sleepwear, or should he have compromised to make his brother-in-law more comfortable? How would you handle a situation like this when sharing a room with someone? Share your thoughts below!