AITAH for breaking up after bf brought his friends in bedroom?

A Reddit user shares their experience of waking up to find their boyfriend had invited his friends into their shared bedroom late at night while they were asleep. Feeling disrespected and uncomfortable, the user reacted strongly, leading to tensions and a breakup. Now, they’re wondering if they overreacted. Read the story below!

‘ AITAH for breaking up after bf brought his friends in bedroom?’

Me and my bf moved in around a month ago. Its a small apartment and he had to set up his gaming things in the bedroom. I had was fine with it because I had no clue he plays with his friends.

I usually sleep and he plays late into the night. Two days ago I woke up and saw that two of his friends were sitting and watching him play. I almost screamed and then yelled at them for getting out.

He didn’t see any problem with it and apparently I am ruining his life because I made him move and now breaking up. I sleep n**ed but because its dark in the room he thought its fine and said I cover you up properly. I don’t even have words but he and his friend’s said I am making big deal out of small issue.

Check out how the community responded:

wrathofvinland −  Yeah he’s the a**hole, totally not acceptable to bring other men into the room while your girlfriend is n**ed. In fact, I’d call it extremely creepy. Find someone with common sense and an understanding of boundaries.

AwedBySequoias −  VERY creepy, and a total disregard for your privacy/personal space. Your bedroom is supposed to be your sanctuary, where you can relax and regroup. When you move in together it becomes a sanctuary for both of you, you are sharing something personal with him. He broke your trust and he has shown that he lacks respect for you. NTA and the right move breaking up with him. He’s a real weirdo.

Slight_Test3161 −  NTA- you didn’t MAKE your BF move if extortion or coercion weren’t involved. The fact you sleep n**ed aside, no one should be in your personal space while you are asleep without your permission. Period. End of discussion. You need your sleep.

What if you woke up and had to use the bathroom? Is he going to complain he has to kick out his friends so you can get dressed then use the bathroom? Will you just take the covers with you to the bathroom? It sounds like you’re both young and he’s incredibly immature and not socially aware of how inappropriate that was. Definitely show him this thread that this is not acceptable.

Legal-Lingonberry577 −  Suggest dating a man next time.

stve688 −  NTA york ex-boyfriend is stupid and an i**ot to start with. Why in the f**k? Would you put the gaming set up in the bedroom? Knowing you’re gonna play games late into the night.While they are sleeping. And honestly, just generally bringing the friends into the bedroom. Not that big a deal until you drop the fact that you sleep n**ed. That’s just completely wrong.

emryldmyst −  Nta. Is he fckin 14??

Banana-phone15 −  You sleep n**ed and your bf invited his friends in the bedroom while you were asleep! You did the right thing dumping him. NTA

CorkyWest1214 −  I’m a married man for the last 34 years and I can tell you with some authority, your boyfriend is an i**ot. The bedroom is a private space not a hangout for him and his friends.

Brutal_Honesty13 −  This is so fake

fffrdcrrf −  Usually dudes are jumping through hoops to keep other men from seeing their woman n**ed and also its instinct for a man to protect his woman’s space. I would never do that and would even feel uncomfortable if I was his friend. He sounds a bit weird and the word immature keeps echoing in my head, probably early/mid twenties.

Do you think the OP overreacted, or was their reaction justified given the circumstances? How would you handle a situation where your privacy and boundaries are crossed like this? Share your opinions below!