AITA for cancelling our wedding after my fiancée said something disgusting about my little brother?

A Reddit user shares the story of canceling his wedding after his fiancée revealed a shocking prejudice against his younger brother. When she demanded the brother not attend the wedding due to his sexuality.

The user immediately called off the relationship, prioritizing his sibling over everything. Read the full story below to decide if he made the right call.

‘ AITA for cancelling our wedding after my fiancée said something disgusting about my little brother?’

My fiancée let’s call her Karen (32F) and me (31M) were about to get married in a bit more than 6 months. Everything started to go bad when we started to talk about the guest list. Karen had been saying for a while she didn’t want my little brother let’s go with Chad (26M) for a while but she wouldn’t give me a real explanation.

I’ve told her many times my brother’s presence was absolutely not negotiable though. For some background Chad and me have always been super close. Our parents weren’t abusing or anything, but they weren’t really the serious kind of parents.

They would often drop us at grandma’s to go party, and as soon as I was old enough to take care of us both, they just let the house and the bro for me to handle. This is a trash way to treat your kids sure but at least it allowed us to bond super super super close.

I’m not exaggerating when I say he is my favorite person in the whole world, I would take a bullet for him and I think the only people who could brag about being as loved as I love him are my future kids. So yeah my baby brother’s presence at my wedding is not something I am willing to sacrifice AT ALL.

Now a few days ago the topic of the guests came back on the table and Karen said *one more time* that she doesn’t want Chad there. I was really getting pissed at that point and told her there wouldn’t be a wedding at all if he isn’t there so she better either drop it or leave. Then I asked her why the hell doesn’t she want him there in the first place.

So that b**ch tells me she doesn’t want a ‘faggot’ on her wedding day and that her family doesn’t approve of this ‘lifestyle’. I was like, Did she really just say that? I knew she wasn’t exactly the progressive type but it never got that far.

Like my brother is the sweetest, kindest, purest soul on earth, I couldn’t believe she would hate him so much for something so trivial. And yeah Chad is bi, he came out to me when he was 20 and he looked so damn scared,

I told him I loved him no matter what ofc and I promised myself I wouldn’t let anyone else make him feel that scared or hurt ever again. And I couldn’t even imagine that woman in the same room as him after what she just said. Idk protective big bro instincts kicked in and I told her we’re f**king done.

I asked her back the ring (that she reluctantly gave back) before telling her she had 10 minutes to pack her things and get tf out of my house before I call the cops. Obviously I cancelled everything and told everyone who would ask the exact reason why Karen and I are done.

Sweet Chad obv heard of it and saw the proportion this drama was gaining, he even told me it’s not a big deal if he’s not there, he just wants me to be happy. I told him my big day is meant to be the happiest in my life and it wouldn’t f**king be without him.

And I certainly can’t be happy with someone like Karen given who she really is. Well now she is back to her parents’ house, and some of our mutual friends have really distanced themselves from her. I’ve got a lot of texts from her family, all more hateful than the previous one and ended up blocking them all.

Karen on the other hands hasn’t been really agressive or anything, just alternating between guilt tripping and cries, saying how I ruined her life (news spread like wild fire apparently) and that she can’t believe I ruined our 4 years relationship over a word.

But not once, NOT ONCE she has apologized for what she told about Chad so I know even more I don’t want to do anything to do with her anymore. So yeah maybe I’m the AH but I don’t think so, and honestly I think she deserves every part of the backlash she is getting.

She has to face the consequences of her h**red, and it’s great her true self has been revealed to the world imo. Who even says that in Seattle anyway lol

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

Prodigal_Lemon −  NTA. Why would you marry anyone who talked about your beloved brother with such contempt? You saw her true colors and made the right decision.

Aggravating_Ring39 −  She’s the AH. You’re an awesome big brother and human being.

SerenityLunaMay −  NTA. Her showing you she didn’t want him at the wedding was just the start of her trying to make you choose between him or her. I highly doubt she would have “allowed” him at your house if you got married.

And can you imagine what she would do if yall had kids?? Make sure your brother couldn’t go near them. And probably kick them out if they were gay

AdShot8713 −  You dodged a bullet big time. It’s not about your brother at all- she revealed herself to be hateful and judgmental. This is NOT who you want guiding the morals of your future children. You just saved yourself a fortune. Bravo. NTA

WXAnime −  “Who even says that in Seattle anyway” WAS THAT TO KILL ME LMFAO. Def NTA. Rare to see great human beings like you nowadays

Stormtomcat −  three strikes, right?. * rejecting your brother. * h**ophobic bigotry. * no apology, only guilt tripping

Ornery-Platypus-1 −  Dude, NTA all the way. You did yourself and your future a solid. Not only did your ex cross a line on a personal level w.r.t. your brother,

but if she’s that stubborn on things now, just imagine life when she’d potentially have you by the balls from a legal/fiscal standpoint. Not to mention her entire family sounds like a den of assholes…holidays would’ve been a hoot too.

Dom_Telong −  I don’t know how you guys fall for this s**t. You are trying to tell me this guy didn’t notice in 4 years that his lady had a hate on for homosexuals? She never met the brother or what? If she did, OP did not notice the person he spends most of his time with despised “his favorite person ever”?

This is fake and stupid guys c’mon lol. They made this account 3 days ago and did not post till today. Why? Because they are not that creative or believable…they tried to cook and this is what they came up with

Longjumping-Lab-1916 −  Of course she’s an A H. You didn’t call off the wedding because of Chad.  You called off the wedding because you realized your fiancée is a bigot. Be grateful you found out now.   Imagine if Chad wasn’t bi and you didn’t realize what bigots she and her family are until after the wedding.

Bobd1964 −  Someone’s s**ual orientation is not a lifestyle. It is hardwired into their being. Her attitude is so out of touch with reality and modern society that you would have never been happy in a relationship with her. You did the right thing.

Do you think this Redditor made the right decision by choosing his brother over his fiancée? Was canceling the wedding a fair response to her remarks, or could there have been a way to resolve this? Share your thoughts in the comments below!