AITA for getting mad that he ate my candy?

A woman (52F) became upset with her husband (54M) after discovering he ate a pack of her special fruity candy from a recent overseas trip. She rarely eats sweets, but this candy held sentimental value as a favorite treat from her time in England.

Despite having an abundance of his own gummy bears, her husband ate the candy without asking, assuming she wouldn’t eat it. She confronted him, calling him selfish for not respecting her personal treat. read the original story below…

‘ AITA for getting mad that he ate my candy ?’

My (F52) husband (M54) and I just went on an overseas trip. At the airport on the way home we had some foreign currency we wanted to spend, so we went to a sundries store to get some snacks for the plane. The only thing I got was a small pack of some fruity candy that I used to love when we lived in England.

As a side note, I do not have a huge sweet tooth, my husband does, and I rarely purchase, or eat, candy. I happen to think that British candy tastes way better than American candy. I ended up not eating them on the plane, because I wasn’t feeling well due to a very turbulent 11 hour flight.

We got home 10 days ago, and I put my candy in the pantry to have another day. I just decided that something sweet and fruity sounded really good, and when I went to look for my candy, it was gone! I asked him if he ate it, and he said he did, because he “didn’t think I would eat it”.

Didn’t ask, didn’t mention it, until I asked him. I got really upset, told him he’s selfish and only thinks about himself, told him I would never help myself to something I know he bought because he really likes it, etc.

The biggest reason I got so mad, is because after we got home he bought an industrial size bag of gummy bears from Costco…which I don’t like because they are hard to chew, and I feel like they’re going to pull out dental work.

So instead of eating one of his one million little bags of gummy bears, he ate my special candy. Am I the a**hole????

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

IAmFlee −  NTA. He should have asked, plain and simple. This isn’t candy you can just go to the corner store and purchase. Any time my wife buys something for her, I don’t touch it, and if I were to want some, I have manners and ask her permission.

Ireland1169 −  NTA He just believes “Whats yours is mine & whats mine is my own” he is just selfish.

No_Angle612 −  NTA. My ex used to do this. But he would leave a miniscule amount and say there was still some left of whatever it was…It’s unfortunate, but you may have to hide these special treats.

Legitimate-March9792 −  NTAH. Your husband was a selfish p**! Make him replace it! There are websites that sell British candy.

WeAreyoMomma −  NTA if it’s Rowentrees Fruit Pastilles!

EnvironmentalAd2063 −  NTA, it’s common courtesy to ask before helping yourself to someone else’s stuff. I would also have been angry. I have some candy that I bought a few months ago and haven’t eaten yet, that doesn’t mean I’d be happy if someone would grab it and eat it

Original_Thanks_9435 −  NTA but had it happen to me too but it was a special treat my friend made for me. He ate it and I was pissed! I wouldn’t have done that to him 🙁

alma-azul −  NTA. I had a boyfriend that did this once, except it wasn’t something that required going overseas to get. It was an expensive cookie; he decided to eat his immediately whereas I decided to save mine for the next day.

When I went to get it the next day, it was gone, except for one bite that he left behind so that he could say he “saved some for me”. That story is indicative of the type of person he is, so I’m glad he’s an ex. It is selfish behavior, plain and simple.

OhmsWay-71 −  NTA. He is selfish and did not think of you at all. My guess is that this is not an isolated incident. Time to really stand up for yourself and set a clear boundary. I would also insist that they are replaced.

SorryContribution681 −  NTA. He should have asked first. Also. Curious what the sweets were!

Is the frustration justified, or is it an overreaction to a small oversight? Should the husband have been more considerate, or is sharing snacks part of marriage? Share your thoughts in the comments!