Aita for dating after I divorced my cheating ex wife and she started spreading false rumours about me and my gf retaliated in my stead?

A Redditor shares their experience after dating their best friend’s sister following a divorce from their cheating ex-wife. The ex-wife, who cheated on the Redditor with a coworker, has been spreading false rumors about their new relationship, claiming they were cheating with her sister.

In retaliation, the Redditor’s new girlfriend shared evidence of the ex-wife’s infidelity, causing a wave of shame and backlash. Now, the Redditor is being blamed for the fallout, even though they feel they didn’t instigate the drama.

The Redditor wonders if they are wrong for dating their best friend’s sister and if they should have avoided the fallout. Read the original story below…

‘ Aita for dating after I divorced my cheating ex wife and she started spreading false rumours about me and my gf retaliated in my stead?’

My ex wife and I got divorced 3 years ago, my ex cheated on me with one of her coworkers, I found some disturbing texts and I confronted her, she didn’t deny, she wanted to reconcile, she wanted to make our marriage work she tried begging, crying, g**lighting but it didn’t work on me.

I went with the divorce, reluctantly she agreed, her only demand to a clean divorce was that we keep the truth about her infidelity between ourselves, I agreed cause I didn’t want to fight, she kept what’s hers and I kept what was mine, only both our families and her friends knows the truth, and after divorce I didn’t care enough and moved on.

For some background, my ex is my bff’s cousin, she is my bff’s aunt’s daughter, I have known my bf since past 12 years, she hooked us up, when my bf found out, she went nuclear on her in my stead, she wanted to shame my ex publically,

but when I explained about how it’s beneficial for me in order to get clean divorce, she stopped and she cut all contacts with my ex and everyone who supported her. My bf was apologetic in the beginning, she was blaming herself cause she thought if she didn’t introduce us I wouldn’t be in so much pain,

she still does sometimes, I told her time and time again that it isn’t her fault, she started helping me and we spent alot of time together, she even had a boyfriend, he didn’t mind, he knew we have been friends and he knew me well and trust my bff.

Anyway coming back to my present situation, 8 months ago, my bff and her bf broke up, which left her devestated, I started helping her emotionally and financially cause after few months she was fired probably due to her mental condition.

She’s my bf and she also helped me when I was at my worst, I asked her to move in with me, she had no job at that moment and couldn’t pay rent, we lived as roommates, she would spend her time upskilling and hunting jobs and do chores while I was working,

she got better over the months and found a stable job and is mentally, financially and physically stable now and works out alot. But just 2 weeks ago, she asked me out, tbh I was surprised, I asked her where it all is coming from and started laughing cause i thought it was a joke,

she said she’s serious, she said we should try dating each other. When I asked why, she said we have known each other for so many years, we trust each other, we always helped each other no matter what and we have known each other for more than a decade,

we should try dating, maybe it will work out for us, I agreed. Cause tbh I do trust her and she’s precious to me, but we are currently in trial phase, maybe she loves me, in any case we told our families that we are dating, my family is happy but from her side it’s a shitshow.

My ex got so angry at us when she heard about it, she came to my place and started yelling at me and calling me names and saying how it’s disgusting I am dating my ex’s sister and I could have found any other woman but I am doing this to get back at her .

I told her that I can date whoever I want and before she’s your sister she’s my bff and she was the one who introduced us and you have no right to become a moral police when you cheated on your husband, after alot of fighting she left.

But it didn’t stop there, my ex started spreading rumors and telling everyone that I was cheating on her with her sister and now we are dating that’s why she left me, which earned us both alot of hate messages and calls from distant family members and friends even those we didn’t talk to for a while.

But my bff, gf right now couldn’t tolerate it and she sent everyone the screenshots about my ex and her ap’s affair from 3 years ago, everyone I mean literally everyone, they even reached her work place somehow, I knew she’s petty and ruthless but this is on another level, one hell of a woman she is.

But my ex and her mother and friends think that I was behind this all and they are blaming me and constantly saying that I shouldn’t have done that, that my ex night get fired or she will will have to change job cause of shame and her distant family members are shaming her and many cut contact with her.

So aita? Tbh I didn’t even do anything but I am blaming myself because if I didn’t start dating my bff this all wouldn’t have happened

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

ThisEnvironment6627 −  S**ew your ex NTA… if you want to dish it be ready to take it too lmao.

LemonSparkle2 −  its not ur fault ur ex can’t handle the truth. and now she’s upset about the consequences. ur current relationship is ur choice

Similar-Traffic7317 −  Is this fake? Why would you be the a**hole for any of that? Is this what people are calling “karma farming”?

dunno0019 −  Dude. What the hell is going on here? I cant tell who’s a bf or bff or gf. Someone is a cousin. Then they are a sister…. Just.. What the s**t?

Alarmed_Lynx_7148 −  Thought it was her cousin, not sister? You mentioned sister when your ex came at you. Get your fake story straight, l**er

DesperateToNotDream −  I’m confused. First you said your ex wife is your bff/new gf cousin, then later you say it’s her sister. Which is it?

Apart-Incident-4188 −  I’m flabbergasted that she decided to paint y’all as cheaters, when in fact it was her. Like she really didn’t think that s**t through? NTA OP be happy with your gf, she’s a keeper. Cheaters hate seeing the betrayed party be happy and living life. Lmao the truth was long over due 🤣. Good riddance.

CaptainBeefy79 −  NTA. You had an agreement to keep things civil. Ex may have been understandably upset at the turn of events, but it was her who decided to be petty. You’d think she would have known her own sister well enough not to cross her. FAFO.

ComprehensivePut5569 −  NTA – Your ex did this to herself. She could have kept her mouth shut and moved on when she found out who you were dating. She chose violence and your gf simply returned her same energy. 🤷🏽‍♀️ Your gf is awesome btw. Love a fellow petty queen. 😏

Secret_Sister_Sarah −  NTA She cheated on you, you left her, years later, you get together with your long-time best friend whom you knew before you ever knew your ex, who just happens to be her COUSIN, (why tf is the ex trying to make it worse by calling her a sister? lol)

and when she found out, instead of respecting your private business the way you very graciously respected her private affair, she blew up and lied to everyone that you were the one cheating in the marriage? No, no, no. I hope she does get fired. You and your bff/gf deserve all the happiness.

The situation is complicated, as it involves not only a personal relationship but also family dynamics and a history of infidelity. While his ex’s actions have caused much of the drama, it’s understandable that the fallout from exposing her affair has caused tension.

It’s natural to question your role in the drama, but it seems that your ex’s behavior is the real catalyst. What do you think? Share your thoughts below!