AITAH: I am calling off my engagement after my partner revealed he is MAGA ?

A woman is calling off her engagement with her fiancé of 11 years after discovering he supports MAGA and has become increasingly vocal about it. Despite his struggles with employment, she has been supportive, even financially helping him pursue nursing, but his political views,

particularly his support for Trump, his comments about women losing worth with age, and his lack of ambition, have led her to believe their values are irreconcilable. She gave him notice to leave and ended the relationship, but now wonders if she’s being too harsh by ending an 11-year relationship over political differences.

‘ AITAH: I am calling off my engagement after my partner revealed he is MAGA ?’

My fiancé and I have been together since 2013 when we met in college. He struggled to get a well paying job and during his long bouts of unemployment must have been radicalized to blame everyone else. I chalked it up to depression and tried to get him help with therapy.

I paid for him to return to school to become a nurse too but he still has not completed the pre reqs after 7 years!He currently works gig jobs while I am a nurse in California making close to 400k a year working a full time and a part time job.

I was hoping to save up enough to not have to work after having a baby since I one I cannot rely on him. We were planned to get married next year and wanted to try for a baby. He knows I am very liberal and all about women’s rights.

He never openly expressed support for MAGA itself until after Trump won and said Trump will help the economy and finally allow him to get a good job I told him that it was the easiest time to get a job in the past 20 years in 2021 yet he couldn’t.

I am not giving into sunken costs and staying and he didn’t know, but he did make offhand comments before on women losing their worth the older they get and I questioned him and he said it was a joke. The past week has been miserable listening to him talk non stop on how great trump is and how he will turn everting great again.

I had it and gave him notice to leave by the end of the month and we are through. He said it’s unfair and told me it’s stupid to give up on us over just politics. The very fact he said that solidified the notion that he is so clueless and our values are too different.

He will likely have to move back into his parent’s home or be homeless since he makes less than 35k a year in the most expensive region in the USA. Am I the a**hole for throwing away my relationship of 11 years over politics? I wish politics was boring again.

Here’s how people reacted to the post:

Round-Place548 −  you should be calling off your engagement because he sounds like a lazy person. GL

Beck2010 −  Let’s see here:. – You’ve paid for his schooling – He blames his joblessness on others. – You carry him financially. – Nothing has changed for 11 years. Frankly, it took you way too long to relieve yourself of this burden. His maga-ness was simply the last straw. Kick him out, block him, move on.

BEBookworm −  Even without the maga thing, why are you even with this man?

Training_Package6761 −  You are not ending your relationship because of politics. You are ending it because he is absolutely a l**er hobosexual who is happy to use you as long as you let him. If you want to use MAGA as the last straw, be that as it may, but this is not even close to the biggest issue. Get him out and move on quickly.

sergeim105 −  NTA. I think you should have left him about 7 or 8 years ago, but it’s never too late. Congratulations on your freedom from that l**er!

VinylHighway −  What were the upsides of being with such a person?

Selmarris −  NTA: you can end a relationship for any reason you want. And ending it because you have a basic fundamental difference in morals is a better reason than most.

dbmermels −  There are many reasons you should leave him, mostly that he’s mooching off of you because you make the money and he’s not trying to get a job and has no motivation for school or anything else.

He’s also a disgusting sexist misogynist based on his “offhand” comments to you to try to trap you because he wants to make you worried you can’t find someone else because you’d lose worth. It also seems like he’s relying on you to be his mom. NTA

Whispfail −  NTA. First off it sounds like the MAGA thing isn’t even the biggest issue to you, it’s just the straw that broke the camels back. You’ve given him more than a fair amount of help and chances to pick himself up.

It sounds like you’ve been very supportive of him and tried so incredibly hard to help him lift up to support himself but he just doesn’t want to. Now he has a chance to be supportive of you and your life and he can’t even vote for a candidate that understands women. Yeah I get it. Forget that guy, sweep the leg and move on. You deserve better.

JFCMFRR −  Your BF’s issue is that he will continue to drag you down and mooch and play the victim all while doing nothing to improve his situation. The MAGA stuff is just the p**s on top of that s**t cake. Remind your BF that this is the optimal time for him to be on his own since there’s gonna be so many opportunities for him now. NTA.

Ending a long-term relationship over differing political values is undeniably tough. The real question is whether the political divide reflects deeper, incompatible values that could make the relationship unsustainable in the long run. What do you think? Share your thoughts below!