AITA – My Kid Approached a strangers dog in our front yard?

A Redditor shared a heated encounter with a dog owner after their toddler ran toward the person’s dog in their own yard. The dog owner accused them of being irresponsible, while the Redditor felt the dog shouldn’t have been on their property in the first place. Read the full story below to understand both sides of this tense situation.

‘ AITA – My Kid Approached a strangers dog in our front yard?’

I’ve (35M) owned my house for 10 years and I’ve got a grass yard in my front yard.  My 20 month old son loves to play outside.  We have a patio with a brick fence that leads to our yard.  I opened the door and and he bolts, like he does everyday, he looks for his tennis and golf balls in the grass.  I’m a few yards behind him and he turns the corner and briefly disappears behind the fence.  

As I get to the fence line, next thing I hear is barking and a lady is yelling at me to keep my son away from her what looked like a German Shepard to me.  I chase down my son immediately as her dog is in my yard.   I tell her that this is my house and my yard, get your dog out of here.  

She starts telling me that I shouldn’t let my son come toward her dog.  I tell this lady to get out of here. I tell her to never let her dog step foot on my property again.  She says I was an irresponsible parent.  AITA?

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

GuyFromLI747 −  ESH.. Yea I get it her dog was in your yard , but Your sons safety comes first.. Hypothetical here , say one day you open the door and your son darts out in front of a car , or there’s a wild animal in your yard.. Cuz these things happen all the time.. A fence isn’t keeping nature out..

It takes a second a blink of an eye.. She’s an irresponsible pet owner and you’re an irresponsible parent. Edit: for all you who say it can’t happen, wah helicopter parenting blame the woman with the dog, he can’t run into the street and all your nonsense.

fernswordgirl432 −  ESH. Dude, you have a runner. You know this, yet you let him ‘bolt’ out of your eyesight on a daily basis. You are fortunate that this was the first incident and that it didn’t turn out badly. I’d strongly suggest creating some sort of barrier to keep your son safe until you catch up with him, or you hold him while unlocking the gate and then go ahead of him to the front yard. She likely doesn’t want her dog to be put down because it bit a child that ran forward and scared it. She’s trying to protect your kid, too.

If you don’t want dogs in your yard, get a fence. Honestly, with littles, if you know that you aren’t going to be 100% attentive, it’s on you to create safety. If you just yell at people, it doesn’t really do anything to make the yard safer– there will be other dogs, and sometimes, they won’t be on a leash. (yes, they should be, but often people don’t) Your kid- your responsibility to keep them safe. (edited for grammar)

LegitimatePoetry534 −  INFO: was the dog on a leash and just walking on the edge of your grass? If this was the case and your son came unexpectedly running over and startled the dog but the lady kept the dog under control, YTA for letting a toddler go charging around out of your sight.

Small children can make animals nervous because of their sudden jerky movements, high pitched voices, and general lack of common sense. If your kid had ran out of your sight and then ran on the sidewalk in front of a cyclist and got hit, would you be blaming the cyclist?

Ok-CANACHK −  ESH. ” I opened the door and and he bolts, like he does everyday,” …this is %100 ON YOU, if you can’t manage him better there could be some u**y, unforeseen consequences, especially since  “he turns the corner and briefly disappears behind the fence.” Dog lady should have had her dog on a leash, not in your yard at all.

Zestyclose_Gur_8889 −  ESH. Your son did get away from you. What if he’d run in the street with a car coming? The dog shouldn’t have been in your yard.

WitchBalls −  Even if the dog were on the sidewalk, your child could reach out and get his hand bitten off. You need a fence, or to hold your child until you are fully off the porch and watching him 100%. Really, both, because there will be moments when you have to pull your eyes off him, even if just to blink.

And if you think that there are no dangerous wild creatures where you are, every suburb has them. Some are very small but still hazardous. Check your local maps or neighborhood groups. There are dogs that get away from their owners, and irresponsible owners who don’t tether their dogs. Kids really do run into the street, and just because yours hasn’t yet, doesn’t mean he won’t. Plus there are human predators, too.

Get a fence. It’s a lot cheaper and easier than the aftermath of what could happen otherwise. ESH, and if anything like this happens again, YTA.

TheFightingQuaker −  YTA unless she was actually in your yard and not standing on the sidewalk with a dog on a 4 ft leash. You’re being a little evasive about the details on that. “Several yards,” according to another comment. Was it 6ft, 12ft, something else? Where was the dog and where was the owner?

radarsteddybear4077 −  INFO – was the dog on a leash? You cannot let your kid “bolt like he does every day.” There are so many reasons why. Your kid should also be taught not to run towards a dog. That’s on you.

The person with the dog may have been startled to see a kid rushing towards their dog – I would be. My dog is always leashed, but a kid bolting at us would be worrying for all involved. I’m unsure if the dog was leashed – if it was, this person didn’t do anything wrong but just exist while you let your kid bolt out the door towards danger.

CrimsonKnight_004 −  INFO: Are you sure the dog was on your property to begin with? Your son rounded a corner out of your sight, is it possible he first approached the dog who was on the sidewalk, which then lured the dog into stepping foot into your yard?

Ogolble −  Esh. My kid was a runner, only recently stopped bolting from me,so I do get it. But animals don’t have brains like humans and toddlers also don’t have adult thoughts. Even though the dog was on your property, if the dog attacked, you could sue the dog owner, but that’s not going to fix any medical/trauma/d**th that may occur.