AITAH for telling parents that I am not coming back and I don’t need the inheritance?

A Redditor shared a heartfelt story about choosing love and authenticity over family expectations and a massive inheritance. Despite their successful career and a happy marriage in the U.S., their decision to live openly as a gay man has created tension with their conservative family in India, who now demand they return home and abandon their life. Read the full story below to explore this emotional conflict.

‘ AITAH for telling parents that I am not coming back and I don’t need the inheritance?’

I am 30 male from India. Please pardon my English as I was raised in small town where education wasn’t even English medium. Anyways i belonged to rich family. But the trouble was that, when I hit puberty i realised I am gay. I tried to date girls during mbbs and it didn’t work out for me. It was like a facade. And my brother was already married at 24 and handling family business. Bless my ex who made me accept who i am and she is my wing woman even today.

I cleared usmle and moved to usa in 2018 for residency program ( anesthesia )against my family wishes. As there was no hope for my love life and marriage etc. My sister loaned me 50000 dollars for all the costs and i payed it off during residency , even though she kept refusing. I gave her gifts.

I found my husband ( white man which is other issues for brown family )during very first month of my move here. He is crna. We started casual dating and I opened out to my family during COVID. They were mad but accepted my s*xuality. Though condition was that I had to keep it secret from society. Which wasn’t possible. I got married in 2022 and only my sister and her husband attended. It was bitter sweet.

My husband works part time as I make good money and we will adopt children in next few years..I have an open insta id and now everyone knows that I am married to man. Which has caused uproar.

My parents said me to d**p everything including my husband and come back to India. They say business has doubled and i still make as much as there as I make in usa with better purchasing power. Like my share of inheritance is around 8 figures in American dollars. But thing is I refused.

I told them I am not leaving my husband and support system that I have build here over the years. They are threatening to cut me off from my inheritance..mind you that money is massive and can change my life even here. Though I still make half million a year. But I can’t leave my husband and the support I build.. My parents are pissed AITAH for choosing him over inheritance and parents

Here’s what people had to say to OP:

dragcurvynasty −  NTA. Your happiness and marriage matter more than money. You’re building your life with your husband, and that’s your priority.

Sudden-Complex-567 −  NTA if you are happy in the US, and you don’t need the inheritance, you are not. You are an adult.

scvmbagTony −  As someone who comes from a wealthy family I will be the first one to tell you, other than your health there is absolutely nothing worth sacrificing your happiness for. No amount of money or prestige can fill that void when you go home and lay in bed at night.

Besides, you made it happen for yourself! Anesthesiologist is one of the highest paying jobs in the world, you’re making a difference, highly intelligent and doing what you love. You can’t beat that!
God Bless, lots of luck in your future OP❤️🤙🏼

KittyandKatie −  NTA. Trading an eight-figure inheritance for a life filled with love and authenticity? That’s billionaire-level priorities. Sounds like the real inheritance you’re choosing is happiness, and that’s priceless.

ravenhipp −  NTA. You’ve made a choice to live authentically with someone who supports and loves you unconditionally. While the inheritance might be substantial, it clearly comes with strings attached that would compromise your happiness and self-respect. It’s commendable that you’re prioritizing your well-being and the love of your life over financial gain. Family should want your happiness above all, not dictate the terms of your life based on their comfort levels or societal expectations. You’re doing what’s best for you, and that’s the most important thing.

FantasticCabinet2623 −  Queer Desi here. Absolutely NTA, do not even think of throwing the wonderful life you have away for your parents’ b**lshit. If you succumb it will only be the start of the emotional b**ckmail. Guarantee next step will be to marry you off to some girl who either only wants the money or has as much say as you will in the marriage.

This money doesn’t come with strings, it comes with chains. Do NOT go back, hell, go see a lawyer and make sure all your legal paperwork is in order so if you are hurt or something happens it’s your husband who has rights, especially with the next US government. Also if you don’t have citizenship yet get that sorted ASAP.

NightMirth −  NTA, I’ve been through similar family drama. Happiness over money any day. Stay true!

BlueGreen_1956 −  NTA. Stay where you are happy.

PassComprehensive425 −  NTA- My parents were working class, but I had two friends that were trust fund babies growing up. Literally, the word “no” was not in the vocabulary for these girls. I had the normal life; worked myself through college, and worked my way up the chain at work.

The money did not make them happy. It actually brought them problems. And how they did it, I don’t know, but they went through it all. They went bankrupt. Millions in cash, stock, passive income, real estate, etc. are gone.
If you are happy, stay in your lane with your husband. Money comes and goes. Cherish what you have because few people truly are happy.

grayblue_grrl −  NTA… That money you will inherit will cost you your soul and happiness.. Not worth it.. Good luck.