AITA for not checking with her AGAIN?!

A Reddit user (adult female with teen kids) shares a family conflict involving her 29-year-old sister. Months ago, the user reached out to her siblings, their spouses, and their father, proposing some family activities.

When no one responded after two weeks, she and her husband made plans, only for her sister to be upset afterward, claiming she was too busy to respond but still wanted to participate.

Despite the apology, the sister is still refusing to speak to the user, creating ongoing family drama. Read the full story below for more details and decide if the user is in the wrong.

‘ AITA for not checking with her AGAIN?! ‘

I am an adult female with teen kids, my sister is married and 29. Months ago I texted all my siblings, their spouses, and my father. I said, ” hey all, my husband and dad are taking some days off work. We would like to do some things together.

If your interested here are some of our ideas.” 14 days later NO ONE had responded, so my family and my dad did a thing on the list I had sent out. Later that day 29 year old sister calls me angry that we went without her.

Then proceeds to text everyone in the group how upset she was we didn’t wait for her. I explained it wouldn’t be the last time we went, and that I was sorry she was upset but I never heard from her. She replied, I’ve been busy. Months later she still won’t speak to me. It’s causing family drama and has just sucked. Am I the a**hole?!

Here’s what Redditors had to say:

StAlvis −  NTA. Months later she still won’t speak to me. With the promptness by which she responds, *how can you even tell?*

Efficient_Art_5688 −  Maybe when she’s no longer in kindergarten, she’ll understand.

Aestro17 −  NTA – She’s mad you did something without her when she was invited and didn’t bother replying?

OhmsWay-71 −  NTA. Your sister is though.

Dear-Willingness-803 −  NTA. You asked and she never responded. I’m a firm believer that you are never too busy to communicate. Sending a text takes less than a minute to do so her excuse of being busy means nothing. So out of 14 days you telling me you never saw my text or never had the time to respond?

So she was too busy to respond to your text but wasn’t too busy to call you, text the group, & could have potentially participate in whatever y’all did?? Make it make sense. Edit: Yes you could have reached out again to ask but at the same time you didn’t need to so being as it may I still say NTA

Lumpy_Jellyfish_275 −  Nta you asked gave a decent amount of time for people to respond. It takes what a minute or 2 to send a txt? No response is a response. Maybe she should rejoin adulthood and not act like a 4 yr old spoiled child.

artic_fox-wolf1984 −  NTA. A month and a half. A month and a half and not even a “hey is this still an option?” text before deciding to be a telenovela character? Seriously? At least telenovelas are funny. This is just stupid. Your sister is being immature and irresponsible and trying to blame you for it. 

CastleCollector −  You were completely normal and reasonable. She is being unbelievably entitled. That is beyond all reason. From comments it seems you have apologised to her a lot. I hope you were just doing that because and realise that you actually have absolutely nothing to feel bad about.

WhySoMadBroChill −  NTA, Has she always been a g**lighting d**ma queen? Stop apologizing to her, you literally did nothing wrong.

Intelligent_Barbie −  NTA Sister has main character energy