UPDATE AITA for walking out of the Airport when I saw my husband’s mom standing there with her luggage?

A Reddit user gave an emotional update on her situation with her husband, who consistently prioritized his mother above all else, including her boundaries. After he secretly included his mother on a carefully planned international trip and blamed her for the fallout, the OP decided to take a step back and reflect.

The strained relationship dynamics and favoritism ultimately led her to stay with her sister and consider separation. Read her full story below for the latest on this emotional journey.

For those who haven’t read the first part: https://aita.pics/eLmer

‘ UPDATE AITA for walking out of the Airport when I saw my husband’s mom standing there with her luggage?’

I don’t know where to begin…it’s been an absolute nightmare recently. And I feel like I was losing my sanity. So for more details about my situation. I have to admit that my husband’s mom favors him over all his siblings. this affected his relationship with them and me as well.

He’s never seen an issue with how differently his mom treats him, it bothered me and made me feel uncomfortable. The whole dynamic made me feel uncomfortable. Going Low contact has never even been an option. Like he has to see her or call her everyday.

Most of his siblings don’t talk to him and I 100% believe it’s because of his mom’s favoritism like I said. He does bare some blame for not seeing how wrong this is til this day. In many instances I found myself making excuses for his behavior. Even in my post. I did it spontaniously and I don’t know why.

But I guess it’s because of how much I love him and because I really really wanted to be able to work things this type of things out without letting them affect our marriage. regarding what happened with the trip, He tried to have a talk with me and most of what he said came from place of blame, Blame towards me.

I just couldn’t continue with this argument. I told him I needed space and that I would be going to stay with my sister for a while. He didn’t take it well, he literally got up from the couch and opened the door telling me to go right then.

In that moment and seeing how he was still not even anywhere near understanding what he has done just….made things perfectly clear to me. I just had pictured years and years of my life being lived like that and I was like no…

I can’t do it, Can’t take anymore of it especially when he keeps focusing on being right every time. His mom can do no wrong. I’m always the aggressive, crazy, jealous, pathetic, overreactor. All these people’s opinions, advice and concerns were like a spark…like the wake up call I really needed.

Though I wish that it didn’t get this far but what’s done is done. Right now I’m staying with my sister (I brought my dog with me as well) He sent me his last message telling I’m the one choosing to end what we had together but I believe it’s the other way around, especially with how he keeps making his mom the victim in this situation.

It’s become clear now that we keep going in circles with no end in reach and I’m just so exhausted and o**rwhelmed. I’m not mad at him and don’t expect him to change but…at least I’m given options to decide what’s best for me and my future even if it’s seperation and divorce.

A big thank you to those who reached out with resources that I feel very very lucky to have come across. Just wanted to give you an update since many of you asked for it.

Here’s what people had to say to OP:

cadmium2093 −  I’m sorry you are going through this, but I’m also so very, very, very proud of you. You are standing up for yourself. Putting yourself first. Looking into the future and making sure it will be what you want it to be. I wish you the best of luck. Give the doggo the biggest of hugs and lots of pets.

Saysaywhat91 −  I remember your original post. I’m sorry your husband is such a ding bat but I do think you’re doing the right thing.
If he doesn’t cut the umbilical cord it’s a dead relationship. I’m glad you have your sister and doggo for support ❤️

Youcannotbeforreal2 −  He sent me his last message telling I’m the one choosing to end what we had together. Maybe if he says this enough times to himself, he’ll actually start to believe it.

I actually think he knows this is all on him, but he’s too weak to do anything about it and is desperate to deflect the blame. I’m petty so I’d just tell him to let me know where he and his Mommy are registered as I’d love to send them a wedding gift.

Beetlejuiceinabottle −  Proud of you!! Momma’s boys are never going to see their mom as nothing but a god. They’ll constantly compare everything you do with them. So it’s best to leave when your not too tied down.

BasedinBaltimore −  You will fly now you’ve cut those two deadweights holding you down. Best wishes. You did the right thing. Don’t look back.

sookisie −  Proud of you OP for standing your ground and not backing off even faced with being blame. Your soon to be ex is a piece of work and you deserve way better than being with a golden boy of mommy dearest. Maybe use those vacation funds you didn’t get to use and treat yourself!

FloofTrashPanda −  He sent me his last message telling I’m the one choosing to end what we had together. This is like someone spending years walking all over an heirloom rug in muddy boots, wearing holes in it, letting their dog s**t on it, then going “well you’re the one who chose to throw it away =(” when it’s finally beyond repair.

Decemberistgirl −  I am SO proud of you! My mother-in-law almost caused my divorce after she tried convincing my husband that I was a**sive to our kids. He hid this from me out of embarrassment.

It wasn’t handled correctly but years of therapy have helped our relationship survive. He knows she’s crazy at least. She has taken little ownership in her plot to end our marriage. I have nothing to do with her. You made the right choice!

[Reddit User] −  Sis, you are STRONG! Now that you have decided to close that door, slam it shut before he can do more damage to you. Use the vacation money to meet with a divorce attorney and file for a legal separation immediately so you can begin preserving your assetts.

He felt totally justified in spending the money you worked so hard to save for your couples vacation on his Mom… so this is when you choose you and begin immediately separating out assets.

You do NOT need to take his calls or texts. You do NOT need to respond to those who have no idea what you have actually been living through. Just choose you at this point.

SolutionHappy5254 −  I’m so sorry you have to go through this pain but I’m so happy you decided to choose you. You deserve better, you deserve that you yourself prioritize you since he clearly will never do that. I urge you to go to therapy.

I believe EVERYONE IN THE WORLD should go to therapy. It helps us undestand things better and get the tools to heal, and undestand situations. I’m so proud of you and wish you the best. It’s going to be a hard road but I’m glad you got your sister and your dog to remind you of your worth ❤️

Was the Redditor right to prioritize her own well-being after her husband repeatedly disregarded her boundaries, or could they have worked things out? Have you ever dealt with a similar family dynamic? Share your thoughts below!