AITAH for selling my daughters concert tickets because she didn’t do her chores?
A Redditor wonders if she’s in the wrong for selling her daughter’s concert tickets after her daughter didn’t keep up with the chores she agreed to do in exchange for the tickets. As a single mom and nurse, she was counting on this help, but when her daughter didn’t follow through, she sold the tickets, leading to a lot of hurt feelings. Read her story below.
‘ AITAH for selling my daughters concert tickets because she didn’t do her chores?’
Hello. I (46F) am mum to my daughter (15F) Lizzie. She’s always loved Sabrina Carpenter and earlier this year begged me for concert tickets for her and her friend. I was more than happy to but i told her she would have to help in order to get the tickets. I work as a nurse meaning and I have 2 kids to look after on my own, as well as a dog and household.
I gave her some chores to do other the next couple weeks including walking and feeding the dog, cutting the grass, taking the bins out and doing the washing up. These small tasks really help as I don’t usually have time to do these things.
The first 2 weeks were fine, but after that she started slacking. She was only doing her chores once or twice a week. This was not enough to help me as work is hard. I told her I would sell the tickets I bought if she didn’t help more. They were about £560 in total which was affordable, but enough that she had to do chores to earn it.
She got super angry and told me this was unfair and she’d help more. But this didn’t happen. So I sold the tickets. She’s not talking to me now and calling me the worst parent ever and her friend is pretty upset she can’t go. I told her if she simply helped like I asked, this wouldn’t be the situation. AITAH? I think it’s perfectly fair. What do you think?
Here’s the comments of Reddit users:
gumballbubbles − You had an agreement and she didn’t follow through. Then you warned her and she didn’t follow through. If it was a job, she would have been fired. Lesson learned early on to prevent her slacking later on life. I salute you.
ProtozoaPatriot − NTA and in fact you did a good thing for her. She *needs* to understand her choices have consequences. You told her the deal ahead of time. You warned her she was in danger of losing them. I don’t see how any of this was unfair
Gemethyst − Kids need consequences. She made her bed.
ImaginaryScallion371 − NTA, without any concequences kids do not learn.. You are a good parent!
atmasabr − Fair, NTA. I assume waiting to buy them was impractical because they would have sold out.
YouSayWotNow − NTA. You made it very clear what she had to do in order for you to pay for those tickets, and you also told her exactly what would happen if she didn’t buck up and do the chores you’d agreed.. She FAFO.
Curious_Platform7720 − NTA. Typical teenager BS.
EggieRowe − Thank you for preparing her for life. I’m continually shocked by the people in the workforce who think their job duties are either optional, to be completed at their convenience, or they complete them ‘their way’ instead of the way they were instructed.
DanielaBosich − you were trying to teach Lizzie about responsibility while also helping with the household, which is a valuable lesson.
KurosakiOnepiece − She’s 15 she’ll either get over it soon or never speak to you again and go nc when she turns 18… it is what it is
Do you think it was fair for her to sell the tickets to reinforce the importance of keeping commitments, or do you think she should have handled it differently? How would you balance teaching responsibility with understanding a teenager’s perspective? Share your thoughts below!
