Pregnant wife’s sister offered to sleep with me?

A Redditor shared a deeply troubling situation where his wife’s sister made an inappropriate offer to him after learning his wife was pregnant. Torn between telling his wife, who shares a close bond with her sister, and protecting her from hurt during this sensitive time, he’s unsure how to approach this. Read on to see how he’s weighing his options and hoping to preserve his marriage and wife’s happiness.

‘ Pregnant wife’s sister offered to sleep with me?’

My wife (24f) and I (24m) have been together for 3 years and married for about six months now. We found out that we’re going to be parents and we are both very excited. We told our families over the weekend and everyone was happy for us.

This morning, I got a text from my wife’s sister (21f) saying that she knows that women can get emotionally and physically a**sive and can put a stop to intimacy during pregnancy and that she is willing to “help” me out anytime s**ually or emotionally during and after the pregnancy.

Obviously, I have no interest in anyone other than my wife but how do I tell her what her sister offered? My wife has always been there for her sister and they have always been super close. Her sister was the MOH at our wedding. I don’t want my wife to lose that bond and it would destroy her if she found out that her sister was willing to betray her like that.

At the same time, her sister is a snake and is willing to ruin our marriage and the life of her soon-to-be-nephew/niece for what I’m guessing is a childish crush on me. My first priority is my wife and unborn child and anyone else can go to hell. How do I approach this situation?

There is literally no good outcome. I can tell my wife tonight. She will be absolutely devastated. I will always be there for her and I know her parents will be on her side but losing a 20 year bond with her own sibling while in such a vulnerable state sounds terrible.

How can I possibly tell my wife that the sister she loved and looked after for so many years, wanted to sleep with her husband while she was pregnant? If I don’t tell her soon and tell her later, she may lose her trust in me. If I don’t tell her at all, my wife will be close with someone who clearly does not care for her and could easily betray her again in the future.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

Head_Photograph9572 −  Sorry dude, you have to tell your wife tonight! Otherwise, SIL is going to twist it and try to make it look like this was YOUR idea!

Human-Jacket8971 −  This is one of those things you MUST show your wife immediately. The longer you wait the worse it will make your wife will feel. It’s either a childish test by your wife or your SIL is just evil.

Adept_Ad_473 −  NTA. This is a very simple solution OP. Rip the bandaid off, tell your wife. Your wife’s sister betrayed you, your wife, your marriage, and her family the second she tried to inject that toxicity into your relationship.

This type of person is the same kind of m**ipulative excrement that will turn around and say she was testing your loyalty to her sister (your wife) if you give her any warning at all that you might tell your wife.

Don’t give her any opportunity to manipulate, tell your wife the truth before she has a chance to twist facts and destroy your marriage. Your wife’s devastation will pale in comparison to pussy-footing the situation in a way that calls *your* loyalty into question. Sister needs to be dealt with swiftly and decisively now. She did the FA part and now she needs to FO.. Better now than later.

TBearForever −  I would present it like… honey, I got a strange text from your sister’s number and show it to her. I’m not sure who may have sent it, but I really hope it wasn’t her, and if it was I really hope she was joking.

waterfallwishes −  Absolutely do not respond to the text. Take the text to your wife and say, what in the world is your sister on, is she drinking? Is she joking this insane, and just show it to her. It’s up to your wife to decide how to react to this. They are close. She knows her well.

And just support your wife in whatever she decides. You are her partner please trust me, this is the best course of action, she needs to know now. You two are a team. (Chance it could also be a ‘test’ by both of them.) Tell her now. Good luck!

TheLeadSearcher −  NTA – Your relationship with your wife is the most important thing now, more than anything including her relationship with her sister. I’d let your wife know and tell her obviously you are not going to take up her sister’s offer.

[Reddit User] −  Watch this be a test … ooof …. Best thing to do is tell the wife . Get it out of the way.

6-foot-under −  I find it hard to believe that this is true. Apart from anything else, she wouldn’t be silly enough to text it. Either it is a test concocted by your wife, or it is a creative writing project.

No-Mango8923 −  Show her the god-damn text. You have the proof right there in case sister twists it to say you approached her first. Then it’s up to your wife how she deals with her AH sister.. NTA

Public_Beef −  You tell your wife. It is not your job to find a “good outcome” 

Do you think he should tell his wife right away or wait for a more stable time? How would you handle a betrayal like this from a family member? Share your thoughts below!